I hate being indecisive...

MiniMin20

So, the wedding is 5 months away, most of the big stuff is booked, and now come all the little details -- shoes, jewelry, flower colors, bridesmaids' accessories, reception decor details. I haven't booked a florist yet, and right now I'm trying to figure out what kind of flowers I want, what colors, etc., and I'm feeling so indecisive! I find something I like, then second guess, then find something else I like, then can't make a decision.

I want to use pink flowers, but then I think it will look too girly, and won't match the green dresses the girls are wearing. I want to use natural elements, like birch bark and branches, but then I think birch bark and pink gerbera daisies wouldn't look good together -- one's kind of rustic, the other springy and fun. Mostly, I think I'm just bad at visualizing stuff and how colors and decor items would look together, and I think I'm overanalyzing to make sure things look cohesive or "fit" together.

Obviously, talking with a florist could help direct things in the flower area, and I should probably talk to my bridesmaids or mom for some feedback. The little details don't really thrill the FI, so he's mostly unhelpful .

Is anyone else having this problem? Any suggestions for just making a decision, or at least narrowing things down?

Thanks in advance! Sorry for the mini-vent.

krisdoug13

I totally understand...although our wedding isn't until next year (I love being able to say that btw) I've been thinking of little details and looking online for ideas.  I've changed my mind on color, flowers, favors, decor, just about every little detail really. I think I've finally settled...maybe. So you're not alone on that.  For me, although I have more time left in the planning process, I had to stop and think what style of wedding I wanted because the different color combos I had going all said different things.  Once I figured out what style/theme I wanted to go with the colors were obvious (even though my future sister inlaw does not think they are appropriate for a summer wedding)...I'm thinking of a deep purple (like eggplant) with cream.
I'm not very good at visualizing either, I am horrible at picturing if things will go and coming up with ideas so can't help you their.  So, as far as flowers go I would definitely talk to your florist for ideas (that's what I plan on doing).  Also, as far as the birch bark and pink gerber daisies go...I agree they probably wouldn't go well together, so you'd have to decide which you really want and which you are willing to let go.  You could also look at doing a different color of gerber daisies (I know the pink ones are the prettiest..they're my favorite flower) but it's an option that may allow you to have both the gerber daisies and bark. 
Hang in there!

Reinedumonde

I don't think I had a problem with being indecisive so much as putting way too much research into an issue before I would commit to something, making sure I had the best option, which was a lot  more time consuming than it should have been.  Crazy, hyper-organized bride: that was me.

Talking to my florist definitely helped.  I told her the overall theme I wanted and the colors I liked and she showed me a number of pictures of past weddings she'd done to get a better idea of the details I liked and really helped me to put an image together for what the wedding as a whole should look like.

As far as the birch bark and daisies go, I totally think you could make that work.  It might give the wedding a fresh, natural spring look.  Pink might work with the green dresses if they're the right shade--it could even make everything "pop".  There's no rule about how many bright colors you can have. 

Definitely talk to your florist.  She will probably have some great ideas to give you some direction.

Arolin

as pp have said, talk to your florist. Find out what flowers are available for the season, and what colors you can get (sometimes different colors of the same flower might have different costs, and if you are working on a budget that might make the decision for you) Also, look online (the knot has a lot of pictures of different color combinations and there are a lot of people who have brought in natural elements like bark). It's all about how you combine the different elements and finding someone like a bridesmaid or another friend that has good design sense could help a lot. And, as I said before - look online! There are a lot of ideas out there and it just might be that someone has combined the elements that you want in just the right way!

MiniMin20

Thanks for the input, everyone! I've been looking at TONS of pictures and really trying to visualize, so hopefully I will come to some decisions or have an epiphany or something

I've definitely got to find a florist too. I'm kind of procrastinating it because FI and I are moving at the end of the month, plus taking a first time home buyer class this month, so we are super busy with packing and the class and such that I just don't want to take the time to meet with florists! Hopefully putting it off until February won't be too late.

I'll probably talk to my mom or a friend or something too. I just feel so bridezilla when I talk to people about the little details and obsess over them. But if they love me they'll probably put up with it.

AngelSmitty

Honey, don't worry about being indecisive!!  I was right down to the final appointment with my florist (I used Harmon and Barton's in Portland)...literally was driving down to Portland talking about using hot pink flowers, and instead ended up with purple, white and blue hahaha but I absolutely LOVED what I ended up with and didn't regret it for a second.  Let your florist know you're feeling really indecisive and ask for suggestions in the color scheme you might like...then ask if you can actually SEE some flowers together.  It took me actually seeing the flowers to know I'd love it!

JaimeMarieB

Angel gave you great advice.

I knew I wanted three different color roses for mine and for the girls hot pink, light pink and white daisies for the girls.  I didn't go with Gerber daisies they are to big for me.