Single Guests Asking for Dates

memartelli

We sent out all of our invitations a couple of weeks ago and I am excited to get replies back. However, singles guests we invited have starter calling, emailing and texting asking if they can bring guests to the wedding. I have been meticulous in planning the guest list- making sure to get names of all boyfriends/husbands or girlfriend/wives from guests that are in relationships so I find this particularly irksome. FILs have graciously offered to pay for extra guests but I don't want to allow them. I feel as though this is a wedding, not some random party we are throwing, and people should respect that the guest list is limited. I haven't answered anyone yet because I am very stressed out as to what to do. Is it selfish to deny the single guests dates when it isn't a financial issue?

jena.n.ross

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[QUOTE]We sent out all of our invitations a couple of weeks ago and I am excited to get replies back. However, singles guests we invited have starter calling, emailing and texting asking if they can bring guests to the wedding. I have been meticulous in planning the guest list- making sure to get names of all boyfriends/husbands or girlfriend/wives from guests that are in relationships so I find this particularly irksome. FILs have graciously offered to pay for extra guests but I don't want to allow them. I feel as though this is a wedding, not some random party we are throwing, and people should respect that the guest list is limited. I haven't answered anyone yet because I am very stressed out as to what to do. <strong>Is it selfish to deny the single guests dates when it isn't a financial issue?</strong>
Posted by memartelli[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes.
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friendofthecouple

I don't think it is selfish at all.  It sounds like you sent invites to your guests who had significant others.  I think it would be awkward to go through the receiving line and congratualte a couple, the same time I was meeting them face to face.  Weird!

To me the money issue isn't a factor, but I am sure your parents or whoever is paying could use the money on something else instead of just your friend's date.

Just my .02.

MiniMin20

Hmm. I can see both sides. A wedding is about being with your closest friends and family, and I can see not wanting a bunch of people's random dates there they brought just because they think they should.

On the other hand, weddings can be a hard thing to go to when you're single, especially if you don't know many people. If you want these people to come, have fun and be happy, I might consider honoring their requests.

But it is rude of people to ask, and it irks me that people think it's okay to do this! But what can you do....