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jpickering8jpickering8
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Okay so here's my most recent dilema.. my roommate is not a bridesmaid.  She's a good friend but until recently (when she moved in 3 months ago) we didn't talk all that often. Well now wedding is in full swing and it's getting very awkward.  I went out to order dresses & then dinner w/ my bridesmaids (3 of which she is good friends with) and she was offended that I didn't invite her.  Things seem fine now but this weekend I'm planning to go to the bridal show with my MOH and another bridesmaid and I feel like I should invite her.. weird I know but I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Any advice from other brides would be greatly appreciated!!
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  • chrispygalchrispygal
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    edited December 2011
    I agree.  Just let her know while you've always valued her friendship, you weren't that close until recently and that is why you did not ask her to be a bridesmaid and that is why you didn't invite her to dinner either.  Let her know if she wants to join in on the fun you are more than welcome to have her there.  Especially if she gets along with everyone and they're all friends.  Better to be up front and honest than to let hurt feelings get in the way of a friendship.  She may not be upset about not being a bridesmaid, but she may feel like you guys are leaving her out.  Talk to her about it.  I'm sure you guys can work it out. 
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  • fickrj5fickrj5
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    edited December 2011
    Does she know that you do not intend on asking her to be a bridesmaid?  I dont think it would hurt to invite her along.

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  • jpickering8jpickering8
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    edited December 2011
    I asked all of my BM to be in the wedding last March.. I think it'd be more weird if I did ask her now.. I don't know if I'm going to invite her this weekend.. but rather just say I'm going and being done with it.. I just think it would be more awkward to be there with my MOH a BM and then have someone ask me oh is this your bridal party and have to explain no.. I think it'd be more hurtful to me to have someone tell me the reasons I wasn't chosen as a bridesmaid.. Thank you for listening & the advice.. we'll see what happens
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