Hi ladies. I'm not really good about posting, but do read this board regularly.
I am having a little bit of kid drama with our guest list. Our Save the Dates (not invitations since our wedding is in September) went out in January to 200 guests, many of them on my side out of state. We made the deicision not to invite kids to our wedding since space is limited. We've told many of our family members there wouldn't be kids at our wedding so they could make arrangements. We also addressed the Save the Dates to the specific people invited not "and family" for this reason.
This weekend, my aunt sent my mom an email upset because her grandchild couldn't come to the wedding and there for she and her children (who all live in Nebraska) were not coming and did not want an invite.
Here is her email:
I was very upset to learn that xxxx was not wanted at the wedding. That's perfectly fine if a bride doesn't want children attending her wedding but if she feels that way why on earth did she send "save the date" cards to all of my children? Did she expect XXX (who has four young children) to leave her kids at home without their parents? Did she expect XX and XX to travel all that way and then park their brand new baby with some unknown stranger too? Did she ever consider that my children might have reserved vacation time and booked air fares that are non-refundable?
You should have made it clear from the start--no children can come period! You should never have mailed a "save the date" card which implies an invitation if you didn't mean it! Then we wouldn't have made plans to attend and no one's feelings would have been hurt.
My question is, do you think I should add anything to the invitations we send out to be sure that everyone knows there will be no kids at the wedding (with the exception to our wedding party - flower girls and ring bearer).