My wedding is Friday and from the start we had a no children policy with the exception of flower girls..now there are 2 infants coming (1 of which is a wailer, like full on crying all day, colic maybe?). I dont want to be annoyed by this but I am. And due to whom the parents of the kids are I cant say they no, so Im stuck with it. Ugh. Someone help me get a grip please.....
Re: Need some perspective please....
I would not be concerned about it, but that's just me.
Remember this is your big day, don't sweat the small stuff.
A crying baby is out of your control.
Try not to control everything anyway. Let it flow.
Congratulations! I'm sure you will have an absolutely lovely wedding.
~Renée
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I love rlavach's idea - if the baby cries during the ceremony have someone (a stranger) ask them politely to leave the room. Although I think parents would do this anyways without being asked.
[QUOTE]I agree. You shouldn't let this bother you. I too ended up with an unplanned infant at my no children wedding. It is what it is! Not much I can do. Once the ceremony is over people will be talking and nobody will notice a baby crying. I love rlavach's idea - if the baby cries during the ceremony have someone (a stranger) ask them politely to leave the room. <strong>Although I think parents would do this anyways without being asked.</strong>
Posted by Trixeetrix[/QUOTE]
You'd be surprised. Usually people know that your child is a wailer because you don't have the sense to leave the room & just them them go off. Some parents get so used to it that they're numb & don't even hear it. Honestly, I've seen it happen. Then all of a sudden they snap out of it & take the kid out. Funny stuff.
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Hopefully your guests will be just as considerate! I don't think having someone at the ready to remind the parents to remove the baby if it gets fussy is out of line though... They could frame it as, "There's a perfect area here at the back of the church where you could walk with her until she calms down," rather than "Get that kid outta here!" to make it more helpful, less bossy, if you're concerned about hurt feelings.
I have a couple kids coming to our "no-kids" wedding too, and its kind of annoying but we're just dealing with it (no sense in being mad at it at this point). Hopefully the parents have the good sense to take the kid outside if he gets fussy.
Next question..so one of the moms with the wailer is in the bridal party, i have her at a table with all of my bffs and other young family members (young like 20s-30's) only one of them has a child and she has a baby sittter so she can party...everyone else has no kids. if she tells me shes keeping him at the reception all night should i move her to a more mellow table with some people that probably arent looking to get their drink on? i just dont want the other guests who are looking to have fun be subjected to doodie talk or crying. or do i just say screw it and stop worrying?
[QUOTE]Next question..so one of the moms with the wailer is in the bridal party, i have her at a table with all of my bffs and other young family members (young like 20s-30's) only one of them has a child and she has a baby sittter so she can party...everyone else has no kids. if she tells me shes keeping him at the reception all night should i move her to a more mellow table with some people that probably arent looking to get their drink on? i just dont want the other guests who are looking to have fun be subjected to doodie talk or crying. <strong>or do i just say screw it and stop worrying?</strong>
Posted by anniemac1581[/QUOTE]
You're really overthinking this. If the table has young people who will get their 'drink on,' then they are most likely going to be moving around, talking to others, at the bar, on the dance floor. They probably will only sit for dinner. That's what I do at every wedding I go to. Oh, and dessert. Really, this is her problem. She will be the one that looks ridiculous when she can't even control her child. Regardless of where she sits, she will inconvenience someone with the screaming. Let her deal with it & look ridiculous. Just be a beautiful bride & stop worrying!!!
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Need some perspective please.... : You're really overthinking this. If the table has young people who will get their 'drink on,' then they are most likely going to be moving around, talking to others, at the bar, on the dance floor. They probably will only sit for dinner. That's what I do at every wedding I go to. Oh, and dessert. Really, this is her problem. She will be the one that looks ridiculous when she can't even control her child. Regardless of where she sits, she will inconvenience someone with the screaming.<strong> Let her deal with it & look ridiculous. Just be a beautiful bride & stop worrying!!!</strong>
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>This! </div>