MOH Decision

Anjee23

I have two sisters, one younger and one older and I'm torn as to who should be my MOH. I don't want to choose one without hurting the other ones feelings. I also have a bestfriend that I would love to be my MOH, but I don't want to choose her without hurting my sister's feelings and making them upset.
I need some advice...it just seems like someone is going to be upset.

WalkersFurMama

I wish I had some advice for you, but with just one sister I had a built in MOH. However, if I were in your position I would ask myself some questions that might help make the decision for you:

1. Are you much closer in age to one of your sisters?

2. Do you have a stronger friendship with one of your sisters than the other?

3. Is one of your sisters more organized/responsible than the other? (MOH's have some pretty big jobs in wedding preparation)

4. Is one of them already married? (If so, they could be Maid and Matron of honor)

If you don't think one or the other could understand why didn't choose them, could you make  them co-maid's of honor? They will likely plan things like your shower and bachelorette party together as it is, so why not let them share the title? 

Just some ideas. . . hope it helps. 

mickeykix36

I have two sisters (one year difference before and after me) and two best friends, so I totally understand. I ended up choosing my two best friends as co-MOH and my two sisters, cousin, and future SIL as bridesmaids. For me it worked out since my MOHs live close to each other, while the bridesmaids are all family and live in different states. My co-MOH were very excited that they would be planning together, and seemed relieved to be sharing the responsibility. All of my ladies are handling it well so far! Only time will tell

I would consider where everyone lives, and whether having co-MOH would work for you and them. I would hope that your best friend would understand if you chose one or both of your sisters as MOH, and the same thing with your sisters if you choose your best friend as your MOH.

Good luck!

emmyroo

There's no rule that says you can't have both! If you can't choose between them I don't blame youeven though I only have 1 sister, if I had more, I wouldn't want to leave one out absolutely have both. One can stand next to you at the ceremony and one can sign the license. Alternate who is standing next to to you in pictures and the both could do a speech. Good luck!

WildMagelet

I know the feeling. Honestly I probably wont have a MOH. The four ladies on my BM list are my nearest and dearest and I can't pick one over another. FSD, my BFF/cousin, and 2 ex roomies. I wouldn't pick based on whose closer or will help more, MOH is supposed to be an honor, not a job description. BP members are typically closest friends and family - if they are willing and able to help they'll do so despite their title. There's no rule that says you have to have a MOH, and there's also no rule you have to have just one. Do you have other BMs besides your MOH candidates? If so, for simplicity sake I'd probably do both sisters, which everyone should understand. You just don't want to end up with more NOUs than regular BMs.

keyaira04

I agree with  emmyroo, you can have two. However, we are the wedding of none of his sisters are in the WP and one of my sisters is (youngest is MOH).  My advice is to select the sister you are closest to..really..as the other two are BM, but maybe they could take the lead on the shower or b party. OR both of your sisters as MOH and the friend as a BM. 

emineminem

i had a similar situation - i have no sisters, but my FI has 2 and i'm really close to both of them. i ended up asking my best friend to be the MOH, and both sisters to be BMs to avoid starting out joining the family with drama! I think having the best friend would be the best option, or definitely make them co-MOHs to avoid hurt feelings!

Anjee23

Thank you so much for the advice! My older sister is married, I didn't think of making her a Matron of honor. That would leave my younger sister as a Maid of honor and my bestfried as a co-MOH. It was just weighing down on me when I was started to get asked who I would pick.