…in my whole life!
I am sorry, just need to vent. I love the man I am about to marry, but sometimes, I wish he would trust me more of my insights.
I am looking for photographers and it was been the second touch thing on my list (#1. Church as non-members). After selecting 4 that were awesome to good quality and in our price range, I was ready to interview. But my FI had one last inquiry: the possibility of purchasing the photo rights to the entire wedding. No, an agreement to copy/print release was not enough. Of course, we had an argument as I felt it was rude and disrespectful to ask a photographer to “sell” their work and passion. Due to his future profession, FI sees it as a procedural and “fair game” question. Trying to be a good future wife, I sent the email the next morning. I felt so embarrassed and even more scared photographers would choose not to work with us. I was somewhat right. I received responses no earlier than 27 hours or so after my email; a surprise from a few who had replied to me within 2- 10 hours of my initial inquiry. One was forgiving and unoffended. Another is confused and has not replied my second email to clarify. Two others requested follow-up emails: My top choice did not answer my call or my emails until 2 days later. Much to my regret, this vendor wrote me a 5-paragraph email which ended with informing me our inquiry to be clients was dropped. Another has yet to respond.
The email from my former top choice made me want to cry. Not because the photographer was rude, but because I felt I hurt or angrier and I know offended someone who had been so nice to me. I know things happen for a reason; maybe God did not want us to have this vendor as a part of our day. Yet, I’m stressed this is going to happen again. I don’t know how it could, but I could see it. I’m not sure what I should do other than pray for my FI to trust me more of my insights. I want my FI and I to plan the wedding together, but 15 months out, I’m already stressed… Does this type of the thing happen a lot?