July 2013 Weddings

Canceled...

Hi ladies,
I've really enjoyed planning with and getting to know you, but unfortunately my (now former) fiance has decided he does not want to go through with our wedding at this time. He thinks (and I guess I agree) that we need to spend some time figuring out what we want, from each other and from life, before we get married. He said he just won't be sure in July, and obviously you have to be sure. 

Long story short, there isn't a wedding in my near future any more, at least not in July, so I won't be around the boards any more, and I think I'm going to leave the facebook group. It's just too hard to see all the planning updates, etc.  I just need to not think about weddings for a while. 

In the span of the last two months, I've struggled with the job search (finding things, those things falling through, etc.), had my house broken into, and had my wedding called off.  If you want to make God laugh, make a plan, I guess. 

Sorry for the long babbling post, I just wanted to update you ladies, and explain why I wouldn't be on the facebook at all anymore.  Thanks for listening, and I wish you all the best in your upcoming weddings and marriages.
 

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  • I'm so sorry to hear your news, and I am sure I can speak for everyone when I say we're so sorry to see you go. I hope you are able to do what you need to do to make this right. 
  • Thank you. 

    I'm not even sure what need to happen to make this right at this point. My boyfriend and I are still together at this point, figuring out what will make us both happy without the pressure of an upcoming wedding.  Maybe we'll work it out, maybe we won't be able too, and maybe I'll decide I want some time to myself.  I really don't know at this point, but thankfully I have a really supportive family, so I've had a ton of support through all this suck :/
  • I am so sorry for you and your situation. I hope whatever you decide is best for you works out. We will miss you here and on the FB group.
    I hope if you ever need any support you don't hesitate to reach out to us.
    Best of luck!
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  • I'm so sorry! I hope that everything works out for the best for you. You will be missed!
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  • I'm sorry you are going through such a tough time. I know it may not be what you want to hear, but I think it's pretty courageous of your FI/boyfriend to stand up and say he needs more time. The worst thing you can do is get married if you aren't sure. Being able to step away from the wedding planning will help both of you sort it all out and figure out what you all want. Good luck with everything and lean on that family of yours as much as you need it.
  • Thank you.  Life is crazy sometimes, but it works out, i've been told. 
  • I am also sorry to hear this and will miss you as well. You are in my thoughts...
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  • So sorry to hear this. I will say that my cousin got married in 2011 to a man she had been with for 10 years. They were seperated less that a year later, divorced maybe 15 months later. They realized that even though they had been together for all that time, they wanted different things. They had even bought a house!

    So, a break isnt always a bad thing and i have to say you have courage. Most people would just ignore it and hope it gets better! I know that is how I ended up with DH#2!!!

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  • I'm a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason...it might not make sense at this moment in time, but try to keep your head up. It's great that you're making this decision together now, instead of a few months from now.....and that it's something you both agree is the right choice to make.

    Stay positive...it seems like you have a lot of cruddy things going on right now and I'm so sorry to hear about it all. I hope you pop in and keep us posted on how things are going. 

    Thinking of you, lady!!
  • I'm sorry to hear this!! I will keep you guys in my thoughts and hope everything works out for the best:)
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