Confession Thursday

Johnsonk313

Hey ladies,

Sorry it took so long to get this up, but TK hasn't been working for me all day.

I don't have any confessions this week, so you go...

volleygurl0306

I confess in all the time FI and I have been together I've only "finished" twice while having sex.  Both times I was really really drunk so not something we can reinact all the time.  I can other way just not that way.  He's the only person I've ever been with so I guess I know there is an exploratory phase for women to figure out what works for them and that as I get closer to 30 it is supposed to get better.  I love the intimacy of being with FI and still find it stimulating but sometimes it bothers me I can't ever seem to get "there." 

kellycatalo

i confess that i am jealous of my MOH and one BM. they have planned a trip to Paris in a couple weeks just because they felt like it. I'm jealous not only that they can go, but that they didn't really even think to invite me. we've all been best friends since highschool, and it sounds so dumb, but i always feel like i'm being left out. they both went to college together, but they ended up having different groups of friends, though they still hung out occasionally they just had different experiences. now they both live in st. louis and i just feel so distanced from them all the time, it makes me sad. also, there's no way i could afford a random trip to paris just for the hell of it.

mamameech

TK has been wonky for me too :P

volleygurl - twice?!?! oh man.... it took years of having sex before I figured out what worked and now I'm done in less than a minute haha

I don't have anything major to confess... it's no shocker that I'm so flippin happy tomorrow is Friday.

Kello4221

I'm feeling kinda moody this week and I've decided that I hate our wedding colors.  Since my BMs already have their dresses there isn't much I can do.  I loved the colors originally so I hope this passes, no matter what I'm keeping my mouth shut cause I think everyone would just say I'm being dramatic (probably true).

morenachica110

I confess that I was an idiot and laid out by the pool too long today so now I'm crispy. AND I have to work tomorrow. Black pants and unbreathable shirts. Ugh...

CowgirlK39

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:001ec166-22f9-4087-b52a-5774d59578caPost:8b91cef5-f1d4-4a8b-a0ff-7b95ac2e4893">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]i confess that i am jealous of my MOH and one BM. they have planned a trip to Paris in a couple weeks just because they felt like it. I'm jealous not only that they can go, but that they didn't really even think to invite me. we've all been best friends since highschool, and it sounds so dumb, but i always feel like i'm being left out. they both went to college together, but they ended up having different groups of friends, though they still hung out occasionally they just had different experiences. now they both live in st. louis and i just feel so distanced from them all the time, it makes me sad. also, there's no way i could afford a random trip to paris just for the hell of it.
Posted by kellycatalo[/QUOTE]

Oh, hi, we eveidently have the same girls in our wedding party. My MOH and one BM are in hawaii right now. I intentionally told them to be ready to order their dresses before they left, but no... one decided on her own she was gonna wait. They also went to school together and will be living in the same city in a few months!

I confess that I am so sick of FSIL constantly telling me I am behind on wedding plans. The irony is that she has been engaged for years and only got her rear in gear when we got engaged, Then, suddenly, she won a prize package at a bridal show and has all her vendors picked and paid for. Also, her MOH makes all the decisions for her. She is using the same wedding invited her MOH did, the same tiara in her hair, and her MOH was even going to make her cake! It makes me mad because she is always like "Oh yeah wow you should really get going on that" and I just wanna reply 'Well it would be done if I was having a carbon-copy of my friend's wedding and if I only worked 40 hours at an easy job." But I just remind myself that her wedding is going to be so impersonal because there isn't a single thing going on that she picked for herself.

meagandal

I missed this yesterday, but I confess that I feel like a shitty person because I'm very angry that FI is not working, and I am beyond stressed about money.  I am angry that his family isn't offering to help.  And I am stressing myself out over what to cut and what to DIY and where can  save $50 and adding more to my plate all while being the only one working and the one who does the majority of the cleaning etc... He stays up all night and sleeps in then he plays with the dogs and goes to visit his retired rich parents and do chores for them while I'm working and maintaining our house and lives and wedding planning and giving myself a ulcer.

I am aware I sound like a brat but I am stressed and struggling and I feel terrible for it BUT I feel like if I vent it here then maybe I can get over these feelings:

I know its horrible to expect money or help, but I feel like its ridiculous that they were supporting his 43 year old brother  who was until a couple months ago unemployed living in DC.  They paid his rent for almost 2 years and say well don't worry about it its coming out of his inheritance.  which BTW they boys stand to inherit significant sums of money from their family someday.  In fact Al had to meet with father recently about changes to some of the insurance policies and inheritance issues, they removed his living brother as the executor because he and FI do not get along.  They are also selling a couple properties and making upgrades to the lake property etc...  It's like these people throw their wallets around and want everyone to know how well off they are but its this hold it over their head thing.  They will talk about money all the time, but now FI is laid off while we are planning a wedding and FI being the son thats in town and takes care of their rental properties for them, mows their lawns, visits, does errands and chores for them etc...  they have nothing to say and no help to offer.  Like seriously why don't you offer him an advance of some this inheritance money?  He asked them at one point if they had plans to contribute to the wedding-which when we were first engaged his father told my father that they hope to be able to help, but then its never been broached again in the last 14 months.  His mother said yes we plan to do something, but doesn't commit to a specific area where she wants to give or even an amount, I don;t trust we'll actually see it.  I mean its kinda down to the wire.  I'm canceling stuff because I don't want to hope something come through last minute, I can't afford to lose deposits and do not want to be embarrassed when I can't pay a vendor a week before the wedding?   Its pretty much too late to hope he gets a job before the wedding, at least in the sense that we can't plan for that money we're at almost 4 months.  He had a round of interviews a few weeks ago that were hopeful but we just received the last bad news letter yesterday.  A new set of interviews and waiting plus the hire and get your first check time frame is likely to be at least a month process and right now there's nothing on the horizon.  At three months out its not exactly add vendors or make changes time.  We already canceled the honeymoon, video, photo booth, limo, and I'm downgrading other things and DIYing invitations.  I'm considering 86ing the church weddign and going with a small ceremony on the lawn it woudl only be $250 as opposed to the $1000 it is once you consider all the coast and offerings at the church.  We have a family friend thats a judge and would do our ceremony for free.  BUT FMIL won't attend if we aren't married in the Catholic church.

volleygurl0306

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:001ec166-22f9-4087-b52a-5774d59578caPost:3197b042-9677-4dcf-8d70-ce4fefa4adf0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]TK has been wonky for me too :P volleygurl - twice?!?! oh man.... it took years of having sex before I figured out what worked and now I'm done in less than a minute haha I don't have anything major to confess... it's no shocker that I'm so flippin happy tomorrow is Friday.
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>It's frustrating but that's actually inspiring.  Since FI is the only one I've been with and we've been together less than 2 1/2 years I guess maybe I just have to be persistent (don't mind doing the experiments necessary to figure it out hahaha) and it'll come (pun intended) to me.  Less than a minute....that sounds too good to be true but hopefully one day!</div>