Honoring deceased family members

junebug19

Is anyone doing anything to honor any deceased family members? Unfortunately, we have some that we would like to remember on our wedding day, mainly FI's father. I don't want to do anything that is going to cause his mother to cry the entire day, or call too much attention to it, but we do want to do something to remember him. Does anyone have any ideas, or have you seen anything? Thank You.

mamameech

We are doing a memorial candle using a luminary with little candles around it. We too have lost some very special family members

smartlypretty

Here's something that I saw once that I thought was really nice. The couple had pictures of themselves in frames (engagement shots and vacations and such), but they also had framed photos of significant family members in photos beside theres. Maybe that's an idea? They had them near the tables with guest book + escort cards.

My mother's parents have both passed so I'm toying around with the idea of tying a small photo of them to my bouquet. I have this great photo of them sprinting from the church that I could shrink. 

I wouldn't do something like put a rose on an empty chair. I've heard this and I just think it's too sad. You want to honor your loved ones, but you want to make this day about happiness. 

jacquiroxx

I'm putting a charm on my bouquet with my Nana's picture in it.  She was literally like a mother to me and I still can't believe she won't be there with me.  We are also mentioning those who passed in our programs, and potentially purchasing leis for each person, to be thrown into the sea by Fi & I at the close of our ceremony.

ETA: We'd remove the strings from the lei's before sending them into the sea of course- don't wanna harm any fishies!

BMcLeodTeam

Both FI and I have lost our fathers. There will be memorial candles with a little picture frame on its own table off to the side of the ceremony. That way if people want to look at the phots they can but we're not necessarily forcing someone to that might find it too difficult. I will also have this locket attached to my bouquet with a picture of my father in it (its from an Etsy seller who will even put the photo in for me and everything! Chrissy is really nice! Has a bunch of different ones, store is here: clicky) 

MillBride2012

We are having framed wedding pictures of our parents as part of our general decor (we have some deep window sills in the mill that will have flowers, candles and the framed photos in them). We will also have wedding pictures of our grandparents who are now deceased.

DeadUtopia

I'm planning on having a picture of my parents and FI's sister on the sign in table along with a memorial candle. I want it to be seen, but I don't want to make a point of bringing them up, ya know?

jessa1228

I really like what PPs have suggested because the ideas are subtle. I also like the idea of having a section of the ceremony program dedicated to lost loved ones as well. I DON'T like the idea of saying/doing something during the ceremony, because I just think it creates an awkward sad moment and disrupts the happy mood of the ceremony.

junebug19

You all have lovely ideas. we are going to include something in the program and I like the memorial candle idea but my venue has very strict rules and one is candles, we can't just have them out, I have to find out more information. I've also been thinking about a family picture display of some sort, that way no one person will be
"memorialized" but everyone will be remembered.