For persepctive purposes, FI's parents are giving us about 1/3 of the budget for the wedding (though some got dispersed to the HM so of actual wedding money they are covering about 1/5.
Invitations are sent so as far as I'm concerned the guest list is closed for discussion. Our original vision was to have 100 person wedding. When FMIL came back with 65 family members for the guest list we knew that wasn't happening. We eventually cut it to 49 of FI's family members (all of 5 who he is even close with) limiting it to aunts, uncles, first cousins, and a few 2nd cousins decided by FI and sent 159 invitations. Last week, FMIL had family members quesitoning our age cutoff for the kids and felt the need to pass it along to me (there is no age cutoff, we just didn't invite his cousins kids) when we've explained to her what we did and she could have just handled it. We've misspelled two people's names because she misspelled them which is horribly embarrassing (one she misspelled because she didn't know her niece legally changed her name...10 years ago!!).
I just got another text saying so-and-so wants to know if someone got left off. The person asking I think is FI's cousin and the person she asked about doesn't have the same name so idk if it is her daughter with a different name or just some random person. Regardless, when it comes to his cousins, the only person they get is a spouse since we aren't going farther into the family tree. If she wasn't on the invitation, she isn't fricking invited! Sorry but we had to cut somewhere. This person also emailed us asking if they could check in early. Uhh idk call the hotel! I'm not the cruise director, I'm the bride. I know I'm supposed to be hosting this thing but I can't hold everyone's hand.