bridemaid make up and hair

mck776

so i have looked it up  on here and it says that as a thank you, you should pay for the bridemaids hair and make up.  My mom and I are going to pay for the hair but think the bridemaids should pay for their make-up? Do you think thats fair?

DirtyWater

I've been in a LOT of weddings, and have never had anyone pay for my hair and makeup.  So, yes, I think that's a pretty nice gesture.  I'd also give them a card or something little that has meaning.

cpasquale

I think it is fair to not pay for the bridesmaids hair and makeup as long as you are not REQUIRING them to get it. I think it is kind of unfair to say, "you have to get this done," but then they have to pay an extra $100 for it when they've, I'm sure, already spent a lot of money on the wedding.

My personal opinion! I am having a hairstylist and a makeup artist come to the house where we are getting ready. Many of the girls are getting one or both done, but I am not paying for it. It just isn't in the budget. But they have the choice of whether or not they want to get it done!

dawnie204

Everything that cpasquale said.  We are having a hair/makeup lady come to the hotel where we will be staying.  I offered to pay for one service or the other, their choice.  Some of them wanted to have makeup, others wanted hair, one decided to do both and pay for the other service herself.  Their decision was based on how confident they are doing it themselves.

adktd2boots

I don't necessarily say it's a "thank you", but if you're requiring it, then you pay for it.  I'll have both there for myself, and if they want it they can pay for it.

wineo929

I'm giving everyone the option to get their hair and make up done, but since I'm not requiring it, I'm not footing the bill! If you pay for their hair, I think it's a nice thank you but you certainly don't need to.

My thank you to the girls will be their BM gifts (still thinking about those...) ah!

volleygurl0306

It is a nice gesture if it is not required.  Whatever you require, you should pay for.  Also, anything for the wedding (hair, makeup, jewelry, etc) that you give them and they have to use for the wedding is technically not considered a BM gift either because it was for your day.  Jewelry that you pick out for each of them according to their style and that is not required to wear for the wedding would be a gift.  Does the difference make sense?  If the budget is tight, skip paying for hair or makeup, make it optional, and buy them a personal gift lieu of both. 

junebug19

I agree with PP, if it isn't required then you shouldn't have to foot the bill. I asked all my BMs who was interested in getting their hair/make up or both done and then got their opinon on someone to hire (made sure they were ok with her work and prices), but they all understand they are paying and if they don't want to they don't have to.

ZenInMotion

I'm not requiring it, but am offering to pay for both in my hotel room.  This isn't their gift, but a fun thing for us to do together.  Their gifts are clutches with their names on the inside and a bracelet.  All have said they are interested.  I am not for giving a service as a gift, it was just a nice thing to do all together.

Starfish0116

I'm paying for all the makeup. I chose to go with airbrush makeup, which is more expensive. If I'm paying for the girl to come out, and her travel fee, we might as well all get it done (plus false eyelashes). I felt it was only right to pay for their makeup. 

ETA: They're all paying for their hair. But, I paid the deposit which will come off the total so I guess I technically paid for part of the hair.

SCogs18

[QUOTE]I'm giving everyone the option to get their hair and make up done, but since I'm not requiring it, I'm not footing the bill! If you pay for their hair, I think it's a nice thank you but you certainly don't need to.
Posted by jparli[/QUOTE]

This is what I did.  I e-mailed everyone with pricing and then booked appointments accordingly.  If you REQUIRE it then it is your obligation to pay for it (aside from the dress).

AriesAngel86

I'm paying for the girls' hair... not sure about make up yet. If I gave them a choice, then they would be paying but if I decide I want them to have it then I will pay.