STD Addresses

Starfish0116

One more addressing question.

Did you address your STD's in the same formality of the invites? As in Mr. and Mrs. John Doe or just "John and Jane Doe"?

Also, with those who are getting a +1, did you write "and guest" on the STD? I've heard people say to just send the STD addressed to the person invited, but I feel like the point of an STD is to prepare and make arrangements. If they get a +1, their date will also need some notice. Correct?

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I've been told that your STD's don't need to be as formal.  We are doing exactly what you wrote Mr. and Mrs for the invite and John and Jane Doe for the STD.  I've also been told you don't need to add the +1 for guests.  But you have a good point about making plans and not knowing you get a +1.  I guess you could add it...just make sure that if they break up you can't take their +1 away and you can't really control who they will bring!

volleygurl0306

I did not address my invites with the same formality BUT we sent email save the dates.  So I just used first names. 
We aren't doing plus ones for singles, just not in our budget.  I would use both names of people in "serious" relationships (subjective, I know).  If they were to tragically break up, unless they are both mutual friends, not addressing the invite to both of them would be understood.  If you are sending the invite with "and guest" written, I would leave it off the STD.  This gives you some flexibility to eliminate these if you end up with budgetary contraints or realize you forgot someone who take precendent over some random date.  I understand people wanting to make preparations but invites go out 2-3 months before a wedding which is plenty of time for someone to find a date.  In fact, if they are single and dating around it is better for them to have less time because who they are dating is volatile.  I understand the courtesy but I think you could put yourself in a tight spot too if you need to cut back down the road (life happens).  I'm all for making things easy on guests but sometimes you got to make things easy on yourself first.

jacquiroxx

I did the Mr./Mrs./Miss thing, but I don't think it's necessary.  I didn't include +1's, but will on the invites for those who are getting them.

BMcLeodTeam

I didn't do it uber formal, instead of Mr. John Smith I just did John Smith. We also did a cute little insert telling someone they get a guest and put that in with the card if they got one

katiebean1

I wanted to do just names but my mother did them as Mr and Mrs john doe and the like. We didn't add the +1's but we also don't have many people coming from out of town so it isn't big of a deal to our guests (I hope!).

jessa1228

I used Mr/Mrs/Ms. All of my guests are getting +1s, but I only included the names of significant others on the envelope if they lived together.

chesterfield

Since all of our guests are OOT, I put 'and guest' on the envelope (but only if I didn't know the significant other's name).  It looked a bit strange but I figured that it would help with travel plans!

Dayna217

I did Mr. and Mrs. for my STD's and anyone that was dating someone that I knew the persons name was on the STD, for the people that we are letting bring a guest that are not currently dating anyone right now I did not specify on STD, but will do so in the invite. They are not coming from OOT, but understand the concern for those that are. However invites should go out at least 8 weeks before wedding that is plenty of time to arrange travel for +1 guests. Not to mention the friend you are inviting might not even end up brining a guest so I wouldn't worry about it until the invites go out. Less things to stress about....