So a few background details; we are having a semi-destination wedding (meaning the location is at least three hours or more from all of the guests, but no one has to fly… other than those that would have to fly regardless). Due to this most people are getting a hotel and staying up there for the weekend. We are having a welcome dinner and inviting everyone the evening before so most people are staying for two nights. Given all of that, we sent out our save the dates about 9 months in advance, to give people fair warning.
Here is where my concern comes about; we sent out a save the date to a friend I have known for 7 years. We were really close awhile back, but in the past couple of years we are simply not as close… no falling out, just life gets in the way and our mutual group of friends no longer gets together. When we do get to see each other it’s always a really good time! When the save the dates were going out we had just started working together again, and started getting really friendly again, so it was an easy decision to send him a save the date (or so I thought at the time). However, about a month after that he got a new job, in a different business unit, in a different town. Because of this we haven’t really seen each other in well over 6 months, and have barely spoken either. Again, not for any reason other than we just both have very busy lives and since our paths don’t cross due to work or mutual friend anymore, our friendship has wilted a bit. Given this, I obviously still intend on sending him an invitation, however my fear is that he will think it is odd that we are sending him an invitation when we haven’t really kept up communication (knowing him I am 99% certain he wouldn’t realize that it is simply normal etiquette to send an invite if we sent a std). I don’t want him thinking I am being ‘gift grabby’ or anything. If he did want to come to the wedding I would be thrilled, but again as it likely requires an overnight stay it is a big ‘commitment’ for someone who is merely a good acquaintance at this point. I don’t know if I should just send the invite and go on my way, or if I should send a note saying something with the invitation… not even sure what I would say in it. Any suggestions? I just feel so awkward sending him an invitation… it isn’t like we are having a massive wedding inviting everyone and their brother, it is just close family/friends…. And this one old friend haha!