Another engagement question

adktd2boots

Did you pick out your ring?  Or were you completely surprised when he proposed?


FI and I had been shopping OOT about 4 months after we started dating.  We had already talked about marriage and went in to a jewelry store to fix his watch and they were having their annual Super Bowl clearance sale.  FI said, "since we're here, let's look at rings."  I found a couple Tacori styles I liked, but I didn't like the pricetag, and I didn't love either of them.  I explained to the jeweler what I was wanting, and didn't know if such a thing even existed.  They understood what I meant, and found a band in a catalog, and explained to me they could add a setting to it.  I added the band, and the 2 Tacori to my "wish list" and let FI decide.  During that sale, we checked out diamonds and it was then we found my diamond.  It was 40% off, which is why I was able to get a .95 stone. 

We get to the city every few months, and every time we did, FI went in to pay on my diamond.  Last summer it was paid off and while I was standing there he told the jeweler to order the ring.  I had a hunch which one, but I didn't know for sure.  I was in suspense for months and months not knowing when he was going to propose.  When he finally did, I was so happy to see the ring actually together as an engagement setting and not just a plain band (pic below). Since I never saw the actual E ring put together until he gave it to me, I did have quite a few "nightmares" of this super ugly ring! So glad it wasn't, I absolutely love it!


 





And this is what I was going to respond in the other thread:
Sushi... Canollis... strawberries! You girls are just mean I can't get any decent stuff here. I think my friends get tired of going to eat with me when I go to CA because I always drag them to my favorite spots. Good thing I'm going home a month from tomorrow... Sushi!!!

Reading your stories is helping me get through the day Thank you!!!

katiebean1

Your ring is beautiful!

I did pick out my ring. I am super picky and he was worried he would pick something I wouldn't like =p. He was a lot happier knowing I would like it. I had no idea when he would propose though. He waiting a month, I don't think I could have waited any longer!

lbarr088

Yay for sushi!

I wasn't really sure what I "liked" for a ring because I had never really thought about it.  FI introduced me to the princess cut and I was sold from the first moment I saw it. I'm not a very flashy person so I wanted to keep it simple.  Other than that I had no idea what he was planning for a ring.

  Mine looks similar to this except the band is a little less thick:

ETA:  There's a good pic of it on the first page of my wedding website in my sig.

Sarah&Eric2012

I refused to go shopping with FI for my ring. I sent him pictures online of rings that I liked but I wanted to be surprised when he bought it.  He designed it with the jewler (his friend from high school) and had pretty much all his friends and family approve it before he gave it to me.  I couldn't hav picked a better ring for myself and that's why I refused to even look at them with him.

kellycatalo

Dan and I looked online at rings in April 2011, about 3 months before we got engaged. We knew we were going to get married eventually, but when we were still in college I told him I wanted a house before a ring, so I figured it wouldn't happen until after we got the house.

In march 2011, i suggested that in october maybe we could look at rings. i never knew when he wanted to propose, but i figured that would still be 6 months prior to when he would ask (i figured we'd get engaged a year after we got the house), and he said, "why don't we just start looking now, because it will give you more time to forget about it." basically, we picked out a handful of rings that i liked, and then i ranked them in my order of preference, and that was that. he made some comments about the one i liked the most being too expensive, but that was all to throw me off.

thus, i was really surprised when like 3 months later i got the ring i wanted the most! haha.

junebug19

I had always "hinted" that I wanted a solitaire, princess cut with a white gold band.
But, I still wanted to be kind of surprised.
He did well, I got a beautiful white gold band, .5 carat round diamond (he said they have more facets and sparkle more ???? when did he learn what a facet was??) and a six prong setting:

DirtyWater

FI, and I spent many days looking a rings and I couldn't find one that I liked.  I thought I wanted a 3 stone diamond ring, but I was drawn to sapphires more.  I had always loved them.  I told FI, that I didn't wand "a" diamond I wanted many.  

I kept having dreams of a setting that looked exactly like my ring.  Finally after going to at least 30 stores, he said why wont you go to the jeweler down the street.  I completely dislike him and think he's a sleaze.  One day I got out of work early and stopped in.  The second I walked in I burst into tears because there was the ring I was dreaming about next to a diamond butterfly.  My grandmother always said she wanted to come back as a butterfly and I think it was a hint that she's still with me.

He didn't buy it until a year later, because we both lost our jobs right  after I found it.  One day he said well lets go in and see if they still have it and you can pick out the exact diamond you want.  I went in and it was GONE!  I was so upset my ears turned red.  The guy tried to help me find another one like it but I said no and FI never showed up.

I guess the owner called FI and told him how upset I was and that he didn't spill the beans that he had it.  I was crying at home because I felt like an idiot.  The people knew how much I loved the ring.  FI came home and said that he was sorry he was late and we could go look at the ring.  He seen me crying and felt bad so he showed me the receipt.  It took 4 years to have the money to finish it.
 

 

junebug19

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[QUOTE]   And this is what I was going to respond in the other thread: Sushi... Canollis... strawberries! You girls are just mean :) I can't get any decent stuff here. I think my friends get tired of going to eat with me when I go to CA because I always drag them to my favorite spots. Good thing I'm going home a month from tomorrow... Sushi!!! Reading your stories is helping me get through the day :) Thank you!!!
Posted by adktd2boots[/QUOTE]

I would be happy to put together a package for you for June 25 (minus the sushi of course) :)

abcollins08

I would send FI pictures of rings that I liked online and one day I suggested we just go look at them in person.  I knew I wanted a halo setting, they're just so pretty!  I picked out a stone that I liked but, I thought the band was showing too much metal.
I later found out that FI went back and ordered the ring he had the jeweller do some etching on the band and it looks gorgeous!  He kept the ring hidden for SEVEN months before he proposed.  He kept me in suspense so I didn't even know he had it!
This is a picture of my ring from our engagement shoot.
 

adktd2boots

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[QUOTE]In Response to Another engagement question : I would be happy to put together a package for you for June 25 (minus the sushi of course) :)
Posted by junebug19[/QUOTE]

:) Sounds good, I'll do the same!

beckyboo27

About a year ago, the FI and I started talking marriage. We had discussed getting married when we were both financially stable enough to do so. Everyone told us we'd never get married in that case. Then, one by one, all of his friends were getting engaged. He had four friends get married within 3 months of each other. I was getting a little impaitent because we've been together the longest of all his friends and their wives/girlfriends. 

I decided to take matters into my own hands. I started going to jewelry stores around town and picking up catalogs. I went through every catalog and circled the rings I liked, then I'd "casually" leave them laying around the house. Still nothing. Finally, around Thanksgiving, my SIL pulled him aside and asked him, "Why are you still with her if you're never going to marry her?" He told her he'd marry me eventually, it just wasn't the right time. He finally propsed to me the day after Christmas, and it was totally unexpected. I guess "it was the right time." Haha!

jessa1228

FI and I started talking about marriage shortly before I graduated college (2008). We went on a mini-vacation to the shore that summer and I thought for sure he was going to propose, but he never did. I found out later that he HAD planned to, but never found a ring he liked.

Then in the spring of 2009 he asked me what kinds of rings I liked. So I found a few pictures online and showed him. A few months later I get a text from him with pictures of 3 rings saying "which one do you think she'd like more?" Turns out he meant to send it to his best friend, but sent it to me accidentally. So that was my clue that a proposal was coming soon.

July 3, 2009 was our 5 year dating anniversary. We had plans to go out to dinner, and he was going to propose then. But he said he couldn't wait any longer, so as soon as the clock struck midnight he actually woke me up to propose :-)

SheaCC

For me, my ring was basically a complete surprise. We never tried any on together or anything, and our engagement was definitely a surprise (not the fact that it happened since we've been together for almost 8 years now haha, but just when it happened) After the proposal he told me he knew from listening to me (he pays attention to my talking?!) that I liked emerald cuts and I wanted something simple with a narrow band since I have small hands. But I didn't know what it would look like until he proposed and I looooooove it. He also bought the matching band and I can't wait to wear it!

Starfish0116

I was totally surprised. We've been together a LONG time, and my taste has really changed over the years. At first I wanted a 3 stone ring, but then I decided that I didn't like them. I've actually really been drawn to Tacori rings because of the style and I also like halo settings.  In the end he got a diamond band with large center stone. I do love it, but I would have probably picked something different. 

My ring:

wineo929

My FI and I started talking marriage shortly after dating also. When my grandmother met him she pulled me aside and said, "He's getting the diamond" My grandmother got a diamond from my grandfather on their 25th anniversary and always told me it would be passed down to me.

So in February I went home and my mother gave me the diamond. I thought it was wierd but turns out my FI asked my mom to give it to me. In March FI and I went to the mall randomly and stopped in Zales to look. He found a setting he liked and I FELL IN LOVE. I told him I loved it and boom. He bought it. He told me not to get excited because he wasn't sure when he'd propose.

April came (only a month later haha) and he popped the question! I was shocked.

caterpillar85

A couple Christmases before we got engaged he bought me some diamond earrings from Kay's. They started mailing him all these booklets and brochures and stuff. I was just goofing off and circling everything I liked, necklaces, earrings, rings (engagement and others) and threw it away.

I guess he picked it out of the trash and kept it for about 2 years. A majority of them were princess cut with three stone or little diamonds that go around. He went everywhere and showed them the book I circled. They showed him similar settings and he picked out the ring. It's amazing, and I know I would have picked the same thing if we shopped together. (except I would have gotten a smaller diamond... he spent waaay too much!)

He totally surprised me. He was smart enough to ask my dad for permission first, and my mom wanted to tell me so bad! She almost spilled the beans a couple times, I'm glad she didn't!

Katiesue04

My fiance took me shopping all over the city because he knows how picky I am about Jewelry, and I don't really wear it, so obviously he wanted to make sure my ring was something I would wear  He then went to the last place on earth to have it custom made for me, he was going to get it custom designed by a computer but in the end went with someone who still carved rings by hand!!!  Not really a good picture because I took it with my phone lol!  I am not going to have a wedding band, this was big enough bling for me

npott044

Brandon picked the ring out all by himself. Before he proposed we never had the big marriage/future talk but we knew it felt right. I knew he was going to do it when he started asking me weird things about jewelry and my ring size. When did actually propose I was surprised to find out he had the ring for over a month. The ring is beautiful and he did a great job!