You aren't invited.

AshnRobo

So, last night my brother came to my work to help me collect wood for a wedding project. A co-worker came up and asked us what we were doing. I told him we were collecting wood for a project I was doing. Very non-wedding descript. Then, my brother goes it's something weird for her wedding. Thanks bro.

Co-worker then is like oh yeah you're getting married. Where's my invite? I said that I'm not inviting co-workers. He laughed and was like oh yeah right. I work for my family's buisness so obvioulsy some are invited, but only b/c they are my family. He then started asking me questions about what he's going to be able to do while he's at the wedding. (i.e. drinking? photobooth? after-party?) I kept saying that we aren't inviting co-workers and that he wasn't invited.

After I left, my brother stayed and hung out with him for a while. Then my brother came to my house. He was all, "oh, that was so funny when you told Kyle he isn't invited." I asked what was funny b/c I wasn't kidding. My brother's jaw dropped and was like how can you not invite him?? Apparently my brother told him after I left that I was kidding.

How the heck do I deal with that? If I invite one person from work (that I'm not realted to) I'll have to invite everyone b/c it is a super small office. As in, less than 10 people including me.

CowgirlK39

Aww jeez. What a jerk for insisting he is invited too! It sounds like you don't even like this Kyle guy anyway. It's really uncomfortable but all you can do is invite who you want, and if he asks why, just use the budget reason, or space at the reception, etc. All you can do is be blunt about it if he keeps up his rudeness. "I'm sorry, nothing personal, just that we really had to keep it limited to family only for space reasons." I would also make mention to your brother to keep his trap shut. My FMIL is like that.... she will get caught up in the moment and go blabbing to someone "well of course you are invited!" Fi finally told her she cannot go saying that to whoever she wants.

josephwedding

Stick to your guns & don't send him an invite. Also, if this co-worker asks (which it seems like he will) tell him your brother was out of line for saying you were kidding. 

volleygurl0306

Agree with PP that you gotta stick to your guns.  One, if you add all coworkers plus SO then you are looking at an extra 20 people which is a lot.  Two, you shouldn't give your brother power to regulate your guest list because it seems like he may not always have a filter.  I'd mention to your brother to not talk about your wedding at the office.  Don't send that guy or any non-family coworkers and invite.  And, if/when this guy asks again, tell him your brother was misinformed and you didn't have the space to fit all your coworkers so you just had to leave all of them off the guest list so no one person felt left out.  I don't think you should have to explain not inviting people personally but some people seem to be pushy about it (typically people who have never seen a price tag on this wedding stuff!!).

BMcLeodTeam

I agree with PPs, stick to your guns and don't send and invite. If he asks again (which asking you is UBER rude) I would just be clear that your brother was out of line.

mamameech

All I hear is Stephanie Tanner saying "HOW RUDE!" LOL

SCogs18

I agree with PPs!  Don't invite him...and tell your brother to keep his mouth shut about things he does not know.

AshnRobo

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[QUOTE]All I hear is Stephanie Tanner saying "HOW RUDE!" LOL
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

hahaha! Yesterday, I almost immitated her when he asked where his invitation was!!


Thanks everyone. I appreciate the advice/backing me up. I was so stunned I hoped I had reacted correctly. :)

jezpez717

my rule for inviting co-workers is only if we have hung out, outside of work..  i have had a few moments like that at work, but then again I think everyone has heard how stressed out I am that we are already like 20 people over, and that I am picking up every possibly shift to pay for what we have...so they kinda jokingly say oh where is my invite, but then drop it

I think u just need to be straight with that guy, Im sorry we can only have a certain number of people at the wedding.

KBSK12

What an awkward situation! Sounds like this kid is going to be a pain... but just keep it simple and stick to the reason that you aren't inviting co-workers unless they are family. If you narrow it down to a specific group of people, hopefully it will be easier for him to understand.