Dress Maker update

rbwashington2012

I posted on FB and going to post it here. After a NWR phone call with my father tonight, I asked him (to be polite and calm down after the phone call) where him and my sister are going for dinner tomorrow night. Well father tells me that per the suggestion of my sister, they are going to come to my town (30 mins away) to have dinner with me so we all can talk, in other words, she trying to cover her ass about this and thinking I won't go all full blast , cut the tch song from South Park the movie on her ass because dad is there. Umm she has another thing coming. As much as I hate this idea, I am going to meet with them and put all this out there on the table for my own sanity. This is a make or break moment for her and I am not sparing any feelings to her. Nothing personal, this is business and I am viewing this as such. She needs to understand this is not the person who use to sit at home all day with nothing to do, I am a business woman that has no free time to spare so my time is too valuable to be waiting on you to just "get around to it"

volleygurl0306

I think airing it all out is totally acceptable.  Your wedding is not in a year, it is in 3 1/2 months.  You need a dress!  Maybe think about what you want to say beforehand though so it is less emotional and you don't slip any low blows or anything (not saying that is how you handle things but if it is insulting your sis won't get your dress done faster).  Explain how important the wedding is (as if that weren't implied), how much stress this is causing you, and how if isn't going to happen you just need to know so you have time to find another dress.  David's is fast but you still need some time to look and order.  And, not to freak you out because they handled it immediately but my David's dress came in and had stains so we had to reorder...all in it took about 6-8 weeks to get it.  You just need an answer one way or the other.

rbwashington2012

I am not going to be ugly to her. because I don't want to cause any further headaches for myself. Just going to put it bluntly to her that this is highly important to me and that this is the only thing that is causing other checkmarks to not be done because I have no idea what the dress looks like. You are right about stressing that its 3 1/2 months away, the bridal shoot is 12 days before the wedding so time is not on anyone's side right now. I have too many things pending based on this dress and I don't have time or the energy to keep going around in circles with her. Will update once this meeting happens.

volleygurl0306

Yes definitely let us know!  I think it is important too to emphasize those checks that are pending this...last minute alterations (yes she's measure you I'm sure but length once you have shoes on is different plus if you gain or lose any weight), shoes, jewlery, etc.  She may just be thinking once the dress is done there isn't anything else to it.

rbwashington2012

I will and to be honest I don't think she is thinking. That is the scarest part of this situation. Is she thinking?