appropriate age for ring bearer

melissasdwedding

My nephew is  4 yrs old & will be our ring bearer. Is there a right age for a boy to be one? I am worried he is too young & will act up. And I don't have anybody else to be the ring bearer. Can anybody help me? Cause I would love him to be the ring bearer & see him in his little tux would be sooo cute!!

WLevine75

My nephew will be 3 when I get married and he is my ring bearer. He may not make it down the aisle, but I am okay with that.

sparent2010

If he can walk and understand his 'job' it should be fine.

volleygurl0306

I think it depends on the temperment of the kid.  I know a little girl who just turned 3 who you could get to listen and not cry easier than a 6 year old girl I know.  If he is prone to throwing tantrums or acting up, having one of his parents walk him may help.  Also kids sometimes have bad days so regardless of if he typically behaves or not, I think you should keep a calm mentality if he ends up not being up for it.  You can still get married and no one will be all that disappointed if there is no ring bearer.  Kids don't understand it is an important day so just be flexible and it should be okay.

rbwashington2012

My ringbearer is actually going to be 11 when the wedding happens.  He is my youngest nephew. My best friend said I could have used her three youngest ones (4 year old twins and her 5 yr old daugther) for the wedding but the kids didn't have fun at all in the last wedding they were in, so wanted to avoid that situation all together. My youngest nephew is loving the idea of walking down the aisle carrying the ring box (going to use a jewelry box for the rings versus a pillow because of his age) and looking forward to showing off how "cute" he is lol I don't think there is a right age for a ringbearer just like PP said, kids have their good and bad days, so its a hit or miss when it comes down to it. If you decide to have the little one, depending on when the wedding is, might want to make sure he has a little nap before the ceremony (or like I did for my best friend kids, nap then kinda gave them a little bit too much sugar before hand so by the time the dinner part of the recepiton was over, the babysitter just had to lay them down for the night).

mamameech

My son will be 6 by September (I can't believe my baby is almost 6!!) and I thought he was "too old" but now I think it's just perfect. The flowergirl is also 6, so that works, but he's just at an age where he "gets" it and I know he'll be great at the job!
I don't think there is an age limit (too young or too old) but like others said, it all really depends on your level of expectation. The younger they are, although super duper cute, you just can't count on them completing the task. It also really depends on their personality; picking a child who is very shy might be a bad idea at any age.

ErinW1912

My ring bearers will be 2 and 3 but there dad's will be at the end of aisle (BM and GM) so I am pretty sure they will make it down since they are both daddy boys.

vantica

Well, this may turn into a bit of a mess, but I'm having my friend's 2 year old twins as ringbearers.  They will be adorable!  I'm hoping to sit their dad near the front so he can try to encourage them to come down the aisle.  If that doesn't work then maybe their mom, who is a BM, can escort them to the front herself.  Lol. 

HollyRae28

Volleygurl nailed it! Yep... Depends on the childs temperment. Just be flexible and whatever happens, happens! Everyone will think your RB is cute no matter what... so if you think he can do it then go for it!

bellabananas

Mine will be 5 months old at the time. I guess just have plenty of back-ups plans. I don't think age matters as much as the child's behavior. Some kids follow direction well and some do not!

sagebird

My 10yo son is our ring bearer. He won't be carrying a pillow, though. Just walking down the aisle.