Hi ladies!
I got married Saturday and it was a total blast! I had the time of my life. I just wanted to take a minute and reflect on something that many of you may not have thought about or may not have been warned about. I don't mean to crash the party or make anybody feel down, but I really wish someone had at least planted this seed in my mind before the wedding so it didn't come as such a rush.
The minute we unlocked the door and I went upstairs after arriving from our flight home yesterday, I completely broke down in tears. It could have been the result of many feelings - sadness that it was all over, missing all the wonderful family/friends/guests that attended our amazing event, relief that I could finally breathe without being in that dress, a sinking feeling of "what next", complete exhaustion from the week's events... etc. In fact, it was probably a mix of all of those things and more.
Post wedding blues is a normal feeling and it will probably set in for many of us after the big day. Yes, I've only been married for 3 days but it hit me like a ton of bricks and I had no idea how to cope. I am sure I'll be feeling some of these emotions throughout the coming months as I adjust to not being constantly asked about the wedding or making plans with vendors or anticipating how my many projects/handmade items will look on the big day.
For me, it was most helpful to accept that I am allowed to feel down and to let myself have it out. I really do miss all my friends and family, some of whom I rarely see, and it was a floodgate of emotion to have to say goodbye to everyone at once. I still felt really down (and exhausted) this morning before returning to work and throughout the day. But another thing I found that really helps is trying to do things as I normally do, getting back into the routine of daily life, cherishing the little things (my favorite Starbucks baristas serving my usual certainly helped). Last, take comfort in your new husband. If anyone else understands this extreme high and the letdown shortly after, it will be him. And for the next (hopefully) 50 years, you'll be needing each other in times like these.
So grab a kiss from your new hubby and look forward to the honeymoon. At least, that's my plan for now. Taking it day by day and remembering that there is plenty more of life to enjoy even though the "big day" is over. There will be many opportunities to enjoy the photos when we get them back, to rejoice in our friends' and family members' big days, and to revel in the adventure that our life together will be. Best wishes to everybody as your days draw near!