The white dres dilema, plus a mens apparel question

CowgirlK39

A friend of ours who will be a guest at our wedding sent me a text last week showing me a pic of a dress she loves and wanted to wear to our wedding, except that it is 75% white. It has a navy blue sash, and is covered in a vine-like floral print. I told her i didn't mind but she said she forgot about the white dress rule, and insisted she would find something else. I tried to convince her it was ok but she insisted it was not. Then, this weekend I saw a similar dress that I liked and bought it to wear for the many showers I have to attend this summer. If the white dress rule does not apply if the dress has large print on it, can I wear that one to weddings?

We are also having a BIG issue regarding what my FI will wear to the other weddings we have coming up. My mom blew a gasket and said he MUST wear a full suit. FI not only hates having many layers on, but is also claustrophobic and over heats very easily (as in, he becomes very ill very quickly). One wedding is in NY in june and the other is in SC in April. He agreed that he would wear a dress shirt, pants and a vest but the coat would be too much. My mother says thats unacceptable but I can't imagine people will be wearing suitcoats if its 80 outside. I would simply tell him to suck it up but I personally don't see why he should have to. I doubt fashion police will show up and kick him out for not being fancy enough (these arent black tie affairs like we had originally thought they were going to be). Suggestions?

volleygurl0306

Depending on how well you know the bride, I'd probably avoid a dress that was mainly white because someone COULD be sensitive about it.  I, like you, personally wouldn't care.  But, unless you know the bride well and she mentions it's not a problem, I don't think it's worth upsetting someone on her day.  Seems silly but emotions are high that day and I know you'd hate your outfit to send a bride over the edge. 

I think you need to wait to find out the formality of the event.  Formal or semi-formal would indicate a full suit.  If they don't state or have an informal venue, I think just a suit shirt and tie will be fine.  What's the trouble though with him coming in a full suit and then just removing the jacket if no one else is wearing one?

BMcLeodTeam

I agree with PP, I personally avoid white unless I really know the bride because I'd rather just avoid it than find out that maybe my idea of the 'white dress rule' is different than theirs. Personally if soemone does at my wedding, I don't care, but that's not necessarily true for everyone else in my life.

SCogs18

I think it's really innapropriate/rude to wear white to someone's wedding.  An accent of white is fine, but if you think it's questionable, I think you should pass on wearing it to a wedding.

nicknuttnc

I do not think you have to wear a full suit to all weddings especially in the summer. What about if he just took the jacket with him and if he needs it then he can throw it on...