NWR Mixed feelings

volleygurl0306

FI just accepted a really great seasonal job (mid Feb-beg of Sept).  Because of his profession money is not normal stable for him during these months so it'll be nice to have consistent paychecks leading up to the wedding BUT the job is four hours from where we live now.  Between working full-time and going to school part-time, I hope to make it to see him 2 weekends a month but our time together will be limited as he is only off every 11 days.  I'm a little freaked he won't be around for some wedding stuff and in general when I'm stressed he is the one who calms me down and gets me to laugh.  Not worried about how we will handle it, I just love waking up next to him and having him around every day.  Also a little freaked that the earliest he'll be done is labor day weekend but he could have to work until Sept 15 (2 weeks before the wedding)!  Overall I'm really excited for him because it is a great opportunity but my selfish wants for him around are there....I'm trying not to say anything though to him (beyond "I'm going to miss you") not because we aren't honest but I don't want him to feel guilty.  The positive spin I am putting on it though is he'll be back right before the wedding so it'll be really exciting and a honeymoon period all over again on top of getting married.

adktd2boots

Best of luck to you.  Just know it's for the best right now and at the end, you'll be husband and wife

aragx6

That does sound tough, but you're right that is also sounds like it's for the best. Just keep positive, Skype a ton and the wedding will be here before you know it!

jessa1228

I'm in a similar situation as you. My FI is living in the city right now while he goes to school, and while he's only an hour away, he's so busy and my work schedule is so erratic that we often go weeks without seeing each other. 2 summers ago he accepted a 6 month internship that was 3 hours away, and THAT was tough. I saw him maybe 5 times in that 6 month span.

Just keep reminding yourself that it's for the better. And the time you do get to spend together will be that much better :-)

mamameech

Oh man, that's rough. I miss FI when we're apart for 1-2 nights so I can appreciate where you're coming from. Just think about how special it will be to spend that honeymoon together

volleygurl0306

Yeah I can't wait for the honeymoon!  Because then it'll be just us for a week.  Plus we agreed to abstain 1 month before the wedding (not much of an accomplishment for many but for us it is) so even when he gets back it'll be PG haha sorry if thats TMI.  But I feel like there will be this crazy anticipation that'll make everything even better.  Thanks for reminding me to be positive.  Now I'm focused on how fun it'll be to have him back and tease him a little like when we first started dating and we hadn't crossed that line yet haha.

aragx6

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[QUOTE]Yeah I can't wait for the honeymoon!  Because then it'll be just us for a week.  Plus we agreed to abstain 1 month before the wedding (not much of an accomplishment for many but for us it is) so even when he gets back it'll be PG haha sorry if thats TMI.  But I feel like there will be this crazy anticipation that'll make everything even better.  Thanks for reminding me to be positive.  Now I'm focused on how fun it'll be to have him back and tease him a little like when we first started dating and we hadn't crossed that line yet haha.
Posted by volleygurl0306[/QUOTE]

That's my worst nightmare lol :)

smartlypretty

  Yeah, that's definitely not ideal. I don't even like to spend more than 1 night apart from FI.

Just focus on the good and remember that you will be married come September!

To try to make you feel better, my best friend got married and her husband is now stationed in South Korea (he left right after the wedding so they never even got to live together). He didn't get permission to bring her, so she's still here   They are working on ways to get her over there.

Jennybenny5785

It is tough being away from the love of your life and your best friend.  I know first hand my FI and I are both in the military and have been apart a lot.  My FI has been deployed to Afghansitan for 10months and has 2 more months to go.  It has been super hard being apart for so long but it has also made our relationship even stronger.  We Skype a lot which makes it a little bit easier.  It sounds like this is a good opportunity for your FI you can do it just talk to eachother via Skype as often as you can.  And just keep yourself busy to keep your mind off of him being gone.  The time will go by fast and just remember that it isn't a permanent thing and he will be coming back home to you.