4 month mark

rbwashington2012

Today marks 4 months until our big day and what happens? We blow up at each other. So much has happen in the last month and a half between both sides of the family,friends and work that we actually have STOPPED spending time or engery on each other and ourselves personally. That came out on the table this morning and it was a great feeling letting it all out and discussing it openly between just us. Hoping this weekend we finally get to just go somewhere and hide out where no one can find us and just be to ourselves finally.

On a lighter note, we are super excited about our e-pics coming on in two weeks! Outfits already picked out and I am excited to spend the day with FI and finally capturing on film what no one else sees between us when the world isn't watching every move we make.

Nikki71

I had that happen a few weeks ago when I burst into tears because FI didn't think we needed a videographer. Stress can get to you, huh!?

I think you're right on, working to spend some QT together and refocus on what it's all about: a wonderful life with the person you love. The wedding is one day, your marriage is forever.

Congrats on hitting the 4 month mark

volleygurl0306

I know that feeling! Last week I felt like the worst FI ever because between work, school, and the wedding I haven't made much time for FI (and he's not in school, was unemployed until yesterday and obviously isn't doing wedding stuff so had nothing but time for me).  I told him I was really sorry and he said he understood but I knew he felt neglected too.  I'd suggest you and FI make a point to spend a certain amount of time together each week/day or whatever.  Like when it hits 10:30pm, no matter what I'm doing I stop and take time to watch TV with FI until we are ready for bed.  That may not work for you guys but make yourself a date night (even if it is just a couple hours one night) to be just the two of you.  Sometimes the wedding gets bigger than the relationship which is silly because the relationship is what the wedding is celebrating.  Hopefully it'll ground you.  And if FI feels closer to you, maybe he'll be more inclined to help....maybe (he is a man afterall).

lauraps

I had that moment about 2 days ago. About jobs and where we are going to live. It is ok. Just remember to love on them after your burst and remember they are going through change and stress too. My fiance has been the best through it all.

Good Luck with the rest of your planning. It will be wonderful!

rbwashington2012

Thank you ladies and glad I am not alone in this. We both decided that Saturday night we are going to play pool at this awesome pool hall dive that is in the city I work in. We have gotten away from our regular date nights cause, well, he had to work on Saturdays and I spent most of the time working on wedding stuff.  So for the next three months as of today, FI made a rule, no anything on weekends or Mondays.  Mondays are our me time day and weekends are our days. So I only have four days during the week to work on anything wedding related and if there is nothng to do, I just don't do it.