Many of you have read my rants about FMIL. She is a very childish, naive, and attention-starved woman. I have gotten very used to smiling and nodding at all her stupid ideas and suggestions, while FI can never hold back. He yells at her, and sometimes does it intentionally to get a rise out of her. She then cranks up the dramatics and yells that "everyone hates" her and that she is going to run away and live in a hotel. See what I mean? Very mature.
Yesterday she informed us all that she adopted another cat. That makes 7... in a trailer. Their place stinks badly and last year they had a problem with the cats all having worms, but the vet wouldnt see them till she got their fleas taken care of. She complained to me that she shouldn't have to treat all of them, and I firmly but politely told her they all had to be treated or nothing would be done. She only treated 2.
So yesterday when I got the pic of the new cat I simply said "She's very cute but you do not need more cats." I feel very strongly about this because its getting to be downright inhumane in their house. However, FI told me not to argue with her and that I shouldn't be "making her hate" me. I was a little annoyed that he thinks I should just sit back and smile and nod to her all the time while he is the one egging her on. I do not think this is an issue I can smile and nod about, and I don't think I should have to put on a fake happy smile everytime she does something this dumb just bc FI can't keep his mouth shut.
Do I always have to be sugary sweet to FMIL for the rest of my life simply because I am not entitled to be upset with her? Or should I be allowed to speak out when needed? I put up with so much of her petty stupid crap because her kids won't, and she has even told me that I am the only person who likes her.