Lame shower if it's small?

morenachica110

So we're having a small wedding (about 65-80 people) and I'm inviting about 20-25 people to the shower, but I know only about 10-12 will probabky make it.

Will that be incredibly lame? My mom keeps making me feel bad about it, but I don't want to just invite every single woman from the wedding (I alsmot am already) just to have more people. It's not about the gifts I just don't want it to be a handful of people standing around awkwardly. I also hate that all of FI's family is a state away and probably won't make it to the shower (I don't blame them). *sigh*

Will it be really weird to have about 10-15 people?

egm900

No, not lame at all, I hosted a shower for my cousin's wife a few years ago and we probably had 15 max.  It was actually really nice, a lot more interaction between the guests and the guests and bride.  I've been to showers where they invited all the women invited to the wedding, and I don't like them nearly as well as the small showers.  I feel like I get to talk to more people at the small ones, probably because we can have more in depth conversations.

NO2012

One of my showers is probably going to end up with around 15 people and I am actually looking forward to it.  It will be a luncheon so we will actually get to chat and enjoy each other instead of it being more like a party.  My other 2 showers will probably have at least 30-40 people, and while it will be nice of course, I know I won't have a chance to really visit with everyone.  Also, I recently hosted a baby shower for a co-worker friend and we ended up with only about 15 ladies max and it was really nice.  It's a nice change of pace for everyone and I'm sure your guests will feel special and enjoy the opportunity to really get to talk to you about your wedding plans, etc.  Not lame at all IMO. 

volleygurl0306

I think it will be okay because I assume they will be the women who are pretty close to you.  Think of it as just a girls lunch/dinner.  I know there are a lot of bridal shower type games (some cringe-worthy and others okay) so maybe you can incorporate some of those.  Or what about ever more traditional games like pictionary/charades/Taboo, etc.  You could always put a wedding spin on these as well.  Those games are perfect for a group that size and don't make people force small talk.  Or enlist your bridesmaids to make up fun bride related mad lib cards.  If you can (or your host) come up with activities without being too gimicky I think it'll be a good time!

sparent2010

That's not lame. Invite who you want to invite, and if your mom is making you feel bad tell her so.

 Are you hosting your own shower?

mamameech

The shower I had a week ago had about 15 people and it was great. I was able to chat with everyone and it was much more comfortable. I like that I'm having a few smaller ones instead of a big one. The whole event is more emotional than you anticipate so smaller feels better.
I remember having a baby shower in my home town and my mom rented a hall and had about 75 people there. It was UBER uncomfortable and overwhelming.

morenachica110

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_lame-shower-if-its-small?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:93d607fb-a967-45c3-8d7e-cf448b988b4ePost:f16a412f-c0da-4c9d-84a8-8c2e9a2c7e2f">Re: Lame shower if it's small?</a>:
[QUOTE]That's not lame. Invite who you want to invite, and if your mom is making you feel bad tell her so.  Are you hosting your own shower?
Posted by sparent2010[/QUOTE]

<div>No, I'm not. My mom is, but she asked for the guest list and every time the guest list comes up for the shower or wedding I get to hear about how there won't be anyone there and what's the point of going through all this trouble if there's not going to be anyone.</div><div>
</div><div>Thanks everyone. I feel the same way she just breaks me down every once and awhile. I've been to one bridal shower (that was HUGE) and two baby showers (one was very small and I liked it) so I'm not super experienced in this. I just don't want people to come and be bored =/</div><div>
</div><div>Man, my mom stresses me out. lol</div>

rbwashington2012

My shower is mostly colleagues from work, my mother and two sisters. I don't know if my mom is going to invite my aunts. But my colleague throwing it had also invited some of her sorority sisters that I haven't met in person but I have interacted with thru other ways. I actually llike that mine is going to be small (maybe 20 max). Gives me more time to interact with guests and actually enjoy the moment. I threw large showers for my best friend's wedding and those are a nightmare when you are trying to round up guests and as her MOH, trying to make sure I had that list straight for the thank you cards to be sent out.

Sorry your mom is stressing you out, kinda wish mine WOULD for a hot second over the wedding but she sees we have it under control for the most part.

kellycatalo

i have the feeling mine will be like that too. i'm inviting 30 people, but it will be on a friday night so im sure people will have better things to do with their time. it's ok, the people who come are the ones that really care!

abcollins08

No, not lame at all.  My mom's mentioned the same thing to me, there's about 20-25 people invited to the shower.  I'm actually glad that it's going to be small, I'm not big on having all eyes on me.

wcasar

It's not lame at all. I like intimate gatherings like that. Gives you a chance to actually spend time with each person.

BMcLeodTeam

My shower up north with just my family is likely only going to have around 20 people. I live about 6 hours away from my family so my Aunt offered to host one up there near them. I don't think it makes it lame at all

CowgirlK39

One of my showers has about 23 invited, and the one my FMIL is throwing will probably have 10 invited. That's her problem though. I agree that it will give you more of a chance to talk to people, instead of being swamped and not getting to chat with very many.

Off topic: a girl i work with said she is having a baby shower next month... and inviting 100 people!!! WTF!?

shaina925

I am in the same boat with you, there will be at MOST 15 people at mine, probably more like 10.  I think that is totally fine.  Sometimes more intimate can be much nicer.