Has anyone seen this done before?

volleygurl0306

We have 6 BM and 6 GM (1 MOH and 2 best men) and no time to do a rehearsal the day before since most of our WP won't be there until late late Friday (no budget to do a RD either).  Not sure when exactly our room will be set up and we are only for sure guarenteed to get into the room 2 hours before which is not when I'll want to have a make shift rehearsal.  So I'm trying to plan things as if we won't be able to practice in the room.

Most weddings I've been to have the first GM/BM pair as the ones standing farthest from the bride and groom.  And then the next pair are the ones next closest etc with the MOH/BM coming in last and standing closest.

Well without a rehearsal, so many people, and no stairs or anything in the ceremony space to mark where to stand, I feel like it will be really hard to gauge how far to stand if the two standing farthest come in first.  Has anyone ever seen it where they start closest to the bride/groom and work out?  I *think* it is considered one of the MOH's honors to walk in last before the bride (no FG/RB) so should I do my 5 BM in reverse order (meaning closest to bride first) and keep my MOH last?  We haven't figured out exactly how we are splitting the two best men duties either so Idk if having one walk in first and one walk in last to then stand closer to the groom than him would look weird/rude either.  I know I am over thinking it but I'm worried about how best to handle this so they don't feel like they don't know where to stand and it doesn't look weird in pictures!

smartlypretty

You aren't over thinking it, don't worry! I've only been in one wedding but everyone was really confused lol so it was good that we got a practice in!

I"m thinking you could do a rehersal right before the ceremony. You will probably already be in your dress, but maybe they could just rehersal without you really quickly (if you don't want to be seen). It would probably only take about 15 minutes. 

The MOH and Best Man are the ones that are supposed to be standing next to you guys and should walk in last. Some people don't have the GMs walk in with the BMs. Would it help with logistics if the GM and Best Man were already standing up there with the groom? 

BMcLeodTeam

I have been stressing a little figuring out one part of this too... my brother is a GM and he's also walking me down the aisle. The GMs aren't walking in for ours, so I think he could just duck in the back of the row of GMs after but not sure if that would look bad...

volleygurl0306

Hmm well FI found a song he really wants to process in to.  I'm okay with the GM not processing or processing without BM but FI wants to walk in with his parents.  I feel like if FI processes, the GM shouldn't be up there before him and to just walk in from the side would be weird maybe (I've only seen this done with the groom).  Maybe I'll do it reverse like I was saying but have the MOH escorted by both best men last and have one GM escort two BMs somewhere in the mix?  I really had it in my head that FI and his best man would stand at the front (not process) and then my MOH would walk in alone last in her honorary role.  FI with his two best men and insistence on processing are throwing me off!!!  Maybe I'll make him figure it out hahaha. 

And, regardless of what we decide I may beg one of my coordinators to oversee a quick "this is who you walk with and where you stand" a couple hours before the ceremony since I just don't think I'll logically want to do that 2 hours before (if the room is ready before I start getting ready it's one thing but I want to focus on staying calm once I start getting ready). 

Johnsonk313

Why don't you have the two BM walk in together behind your FI and his parent? I think having your coordinator do a quick run down sounds great, because people really just need to know the basics. I was in a wedding were the bride decided to have a RD dinner and no rehearsal go figure lol. But they gave us the same run down you are suggesting who was walking with who, and telling the first bridesmaid down the aisle where to stand, and everything was fine!

Sarah&Eric2012

Ok, this may be way out of left field, but could you possibly put a marker (poker chip, quarter, piece of lint, whatever) down where each BM and GM would stand once they walk down the aisle?  Maybe your coordinator could mark it out as part of the decoration of the ceremony space.  It would have to be something that's visible to the bridal party and not to the people sitting down though.  Just a thought, like I said, I don't know if it's a good idea or not :-\

BMcLeodTeam

Even just a small piece of tape on the ground if its indoors... that's a great idea

volleygurl0306

I should be able to have that done.  Just have to make sure we pick it up before they changeover the room for the reception.  I'm hoping when we go for our tasting in July we'll have a better idea of how early we can get in the room.  Our contract says 2 hours because they give themselves some room in case they can book something in the morning.  But, when FI and I went there in the fall, we were there around 11am and they already had the tables out for an evening wedding reception because nothing was booked in the morning.  So just keeping my fingers crossed nothing else books!  I also like the ideas of the 2 BM coming in after FI.  He comes home today (yay) so I'm going to have him help me with this one before my head spins off!

amyjo700

Off topic, JohnsonK313, I love those red shoes. 

Amy Jo

Johnsonk313

Thanks Amyjo! They're pink but my cell phone camera suck lol. *end thread jack*