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stargazer10

I haven't been on much lately due to FI leaving for a new job.  I took him to the bus station last night.  I had bouts of tears for two days before, and I completely lost it when he got on the bus.FI went/is going to Iowa.  We have no clue when he will be home.  He could make it in for a weekend after a few weeks, or it could be two months or longer before he makes it back home.  This is the first time we have ever really been apart other than school.  I know we're going to talk everyday.  And I know we're going to be fine.  We're almost fourteen hours apart.  I'm still crying thinking about him being away.  I need a friend, but I don't really have one close.  The closest is an hour away.  I don't know what to do right now to make me feel better.  Honestly, I feel like the biggest baby ever, but I'm hoping someone understands what I'm going through right now.

cobrien1976

My Fi was gone for almost 2 months a few years back in Washington State for work. We lived together at the time and it was our first time ever a part for a large amount of time. It was difficult the first few days but then after that and after many phone call and emails, things got better as days went on. Try to keep busy, I spent a lot of time at the gym in the evenings. Visited with friends that lived further away. Clean and organized our very small apartment. I did things that he would nonetheless not want to do. Watched a TON of chick flicks, read a book in peace. You'll be fine, it is not like he's going away forever and remember "distance makes the heart grow fonder"!

morganphd

Ditto Cobrien. My DH travels a lot for work. He's often gone for two or three weeks and it's gotten to the point we're we barely even speak on the phone when he's gone. We'll text though. About twice a year he has to go away for two to three weeks when I have no contact with him. I can't email, phone, or text him because he doesn't have access to any of those means of communication. Those are hard to get through, but I've learned over the years. I do the same as Cobrien. When he's gone, I clean and rent chick flicks and generally do everything that wouldn't get done while he was here. My best friend is two hours away and my second best friend is an hour away. We'll meet up at a mall or movie theater half ways between our homes, so that nobody is driving a very long distance. It might seem hard at first, but you'll adapt and get used to it. I've actually come to enjoy the time I have alone when DH is gone. Not every trip, but a lot of them.

stargazer10

Thanks.  I know it's not forever.  We're living with his mom while we are buying a house, so hopefully I can work on that and have it ready to move in by the time he gets home.  But until then, I do have to live with his mom alone.

bel138

FI and I dated for 3 weeks before we were long distance for several years. We have only been in the same state for the past 3 months. Don't feel bad about crying. It took me months before he could leave without me breaking down. He still travels a lot - like for a week at a time 3 out of 4 weeks of the month. I actually really enjoy the time to myself. I keep the apartment clean. I go to the gym, read books, take bubble baths, do all the girlie things I don't want him to see, like hair removal.

king26

Try not to get to down on it, and keep yourself busy!  My ex and I were together for 2 years, did long distance for two years, then were back together for another year.  Those two years apart were hard, but I found the best thing was to make a "date" every night either on line or on the phoen jsut for 15 minutes to talk about our days.  It helped a lot.  I also got REALLY good at cooking during this time because I woudl spend an hour or so looking up recipes and making new dishes.  I also took up scrapbooking (which i still LOVE to do) and sewing.  Just find some hobbies and stay busy.  Make sure you see your friends, even if they are far away.  My best friend was 2 hours away but like some of the other girls, we'd meet in the middle every couple of weekend for shopping and lunch.  I know it seems extremely tough right now, but it does get better!

stargazer10

I have been eating all day, which is probably not the best thing to do, watching some movies and tv, and cuddling with a teddy bear from FI.  Maybe in a few days, I'll feel like doing a little more. It helps me feel better knowing I'm not the only one who is/has been in this situation. 

KimWard

I agree with pps. Though my DH doesn't travel a lot for work (he's still trying to find work....*sigh*), we were apart a lot during summers and when I studied abroad for 4 months. It was the hardest 4 months of my life, but also some of the most enjoyable and memorable of course. I'm not going to lie though- I wouldn't want to do it again. Just think, at this time next year you will be married!! I know it seems far away, but the time will fly.