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mck776

so i just had to post something. I feel a little overwhelmed-4 months away. I wanted to know if anyone else is feeling this way--I worry no ones gonna like the food or the music I pick. Something will go wrong the day of the wedding like the pastor is a no show or we have no transportation. I'm not an organized person-i feel my FMIL is just waiting for something to fall through the cracks. I just feel stressed-- I can only imagine what i will feel like a week from the wedding. I got my invitations the font color doesnt match my wedding invitation belly band. It doesnt bother me, but I just feel my FMIL is going to say ohh that doesnt match. I know Im rambling, Ive changed my centerpieces 3 times because I want people to like them and not try to suggest something else because I don't have a theme. I don't care to have a theme. Anyways sorry I just had to get this out. I thought you brides to be would be most understanding.

sparent2010

Have you talked with your FI about your feelings?

I might suggest looking at the style me pretty spreadsheets for planning or some google ones.

Lastly, *hugs* sit down, relax and drink a glass of wine. Sometimes you need to veg out.

AriesAngel86

I feel overwhelmed sometimes, too!! It sounds like you want to please people- focus on what you want. Yes you want your guests to have a good time and enjoy themselves, but it is YOUR wedding. If you love the centerpieces who cares if Aunt Myrtle doesn't care for them!? 

gabriel0915

Every so often I feel overwhelmed. When I really think about it. I have a FMIL that can't stand me so I finally got to the point where I just don't care anymore. As long as I get to marry my FI at the end of the day, I'm happy. I also just started a new job so that lets me take some time off of wedding stuff and we are moving in a month which also gives me somewhere else to focus my attention. If you are really overwhelmed, take a break for a few weeks and then come back to it. You'll feel better.

egm900

We have 3.5 months until the big day, and we don't really have that much done if that makes you feel better.  I wouldn't freak out too much over the centerpieces, that's one of those things most people don't remember.  It sounds like you're more concerned about what your FMIL thinks.  If you can accept everything won't be perfect in her mind, and focus on what you want, it will get a lot easier.

mamameech

***hugs***

It's totally normal to feel that way but don't let it consume you. Feel it and then kick it in the butt! Make a list and accomplish something... the rush you get from that check will lead you into the next. You still have time so try to breathe and try not to let other people's opinions suck the joy outta this for you!

volleygurl0306

It's totally normal what you are feeling.  I've had my share of meltdowns.  I always feel rejuvenated when I take some time off.  At first I think "how will that help, nothing will get done" but it really does.  Take a break, even if it is just a week and do something else in your normal wedding time--read a book, do some spring cleaning, go for walks, whatever makes you calm.  Then once you've cleared your head a bit, come back to the wedding stuff, make a list and just take things one at a time starting with the highest priority.

As for your FMIL, she sounds like one of those people who are never pleased and always have sh*t to say unfortunately.  Sooo sadly you won't do everything perfect in her eyes.  But it can be the wedding of YOUR dreams.  The wedding is about you and your FI, not her.  She and all the other guests should be focused only on the joy of your day, not color schemes and centerpieces.  Breathe!  You get to marry your Prince Charming regardless so once you see the rest as just fluff on top of that, it all seems not worth getting so worked up over.  BIG HUGS, girl!  You'll get there!  (and feel free to keep us posted...it helps to talk to ladies going through the same thing).

Trins

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[QUOTE]***hugs*** It's totally normal to feel that way but don't let it consume you. Feel it and then kick it in the butt! Make a list and accomplish something... the rush you get from that check will lead you into the next. You still have time so try to breathe and try not to let other people's opinions suck the joy outta this for you!
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

I second this!!!!! And don't be afraid to take a little break as well. I had a huge wedding overload a few weeks back and FI made me take a break from it. At first I thought he was crazy but it really did help :)

If you can read "A Practical Wedding:Creative Ideas for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration" It saved me!!!!!!! It really puts everything back in perspective, and is a quick read (I read it in a day)

mck776

Thanks ladies! You girls are so sweet!