I had a great bridal shower and bachelorette this weekend but am pretty annoyed with one of my BMs. She confirmed she was coming to both even though all my BM knew it was not something I was "demanding" or even expecting by any means (two of my out of town BM couldn't come at all which I was completely understanding of). Well, this BM showed up two hours late to my shower (a 3 hour shower)! She sent me a text an hour and a half after it started saying she was running late (duh!), not that I was around my phone since I had guests. Her brother flew in wiht his wife that day and their flight was late. I get it to an extent but they live pretty close to the airport so couldn't you just have asked them to take a cab since you have a commitment? But, I let that go until she then left early because her brother left his wife alone to go hang out with his friends so my BM had to go entertain her. Uhh your brother needs to figure it out. So she was there less than an hour.
Then for my bachelorette her, one of my other BM ,and two other friends came together. They were an hour and a half late though! Not sure whose fault it was but I know my MOH was pissed because it pushed back our appointment with the stripper back by an hour. I don't know for sure but I'm hoping that there wasn't any sort of fee with that. So even if I let that go, then we went out dancing. The same BM literally sat in a corner and pouted the whole time we were dancing. I know as a friend I could have/should have checked in with her, but it was kinda my one night to be with all my girlfriends (I had 4 people from out of town) to have fun and wasn't really feeling any patience for people who were trying to ruin the night. If you weren't up for it, just tell me something came up and you couldn't make it. So around 12:30 (which is only 2 hours from when they showed up) my one friend says they have to go soon because that BM is their ride and she needs to go. Mind you, she's not the one who tells me this, our friend breaks the news that all 4 of them have to leave now. Also my friend nor the BM explained why. When the BM finally came to say bye right as they were leaving she didn't apologize or explain or anything.
To make it all worse I found out the next day something that made me even more pissed off. I had 3 friends who I lived with when I spent a semester abroad. They all amazingly flew in to spend this special weekend with me. They had each other fortunately but were kinda the outsiders (at first) since all my other friends have crossed paths at some point (most were from high school , some from middle school, and then my cousin and her brother's gf). Well my abroad friends blended beautifully with all my others. Everyone accepted them and everyone danced with everyone like we all knew each other for years. But, the BM was rude to them!!! They introduced themselves and tried to get her to dance and I don't know exactly what was said but she basically just turned away from them. I don't care what's going on or how grumpy you are being, don't be nasty to my other friends though. I feel like you should just suck it up for the 2 hours you actually came and pretend to have a good time or just don't come. You aren't being supportive or celebrating if you are being a brat.
I know I should probably ask what was up but I had already started to regret asking her to be one of my BM before this weekend because she's said some mean things to me and just hasn't been a good friend. Her and I are in difference places and I'm kinda sick of her bullshit (for the past 6 months she's always the Debbie Downer and whines about everything even though most of it is in her control). I really just want to go tell her off. Am I overreacting to this weekend or would you be pissed too?