September 2012 Weddings

Relieved!

So I vented yesterday about my family drama saga that somehow still drags on.  In a nut shell of recent events, my aunt b*tched me and my parents out because I didn't invite her daughter to the wedding.  I'm sure my aunt wasn't surprised she didn't get an invte because she hates me and FI (and we hate her right back) and doesn't support our relationship.  Her daughter has constantly ignored my attempts to reach out to her and excluded me from her graduation party because I had hurt her mom and grandparents (who also don't support our marriage).  So, my logic was, she doesn't want me in her life so why would I invite her to the wedding.  I was actually confused that she was hurt by this because what did she expect?

So I knew that I didn't owe her an explanation but when she started posting sh!t on facebook about how hurt she is I wanted to tell her to put on her big girl panties and get over herself.  She chose to ignore me, she chose to exclude me, and she chose to not talk to me at my brother's wedding 3 weeks ago.  So I just wrote her a really well thought out email (in this family you need written proof that you didn't say something psychotic) saying that a wedding is for people who support the marriage.  You have chose not to support us by ignoring me.  So you can change your mind and apologize and support us or you can stand by your decision and deal with the consequences.

My family has a BAD habit of not coming to terms with the fact that we aren't "kids" any more (my brother is the oldest and he's 26, I'm next oldest so adult grandchildren is "new" in the family) so it was very satisfying to tell my cousin that if you are going to make grown-up decisions, act like a grown up about them. 

Re: Relieved!

  • Good, glad you got that off your chest.  Being so close to the wedding, the last thing you need is that weight on your shoulders!  :)  Glad you feel better
  • Good on you girl!
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  • way to go! i give you props for thinking through what you were going to say before you sent your email..it's always so hard to stay logical and calm when all you wanna do is tell them to go scratch!

    -kristine!

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  • Good!  I have a similar letter I want to send my grandfather, but I'm waiting until after the wedding per my Mom's request.

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