Ugh more guests

danigirl7181

Is it horrible that I can't wait for the wedding to be done? FMIL just added about 25 more people to the guest list, so it is now up to 247 (that's not including kids 3 and under). Is it bad that I hope not everyone can make it? I'm just tired of the planning and there is still so much to do. We are also in the process of buying a house and have a 18 month old. I can't wait for this year to be over and we can relax and not worry about money as much, since all my paychecks are going to for the wedding. 

Okay sorry my whinning is over, it's just been a long weekend. 

Happy Monday everyone!!!

gabriel0915

I am ready too. I have so many other things going on in my life that the wedding is seriously the last thing on my mind. Adding guests is hard. We picked a venue with a small amount of people, 60, and there is literally no space to go over. There are no seats. That helps make our lives a littl easier lol. We are getting so close!

abcollins08

Not horrible at all.  I'm ready to get back to my "normal" life.  It's been consumed by wedding preparations for almost a month now.  We got all of the big checks done shortly after our engagement so lately we've been DIYing small stuff and invitations.  But I'm trying to enjoy and take it all in.  I like having stuff to do, and little projects to work on when I get home in the evenings.  I know time will really start to fly by now, and if something doesn't get done - Oh Well!  I'll live!

BMcLeodTeam

I keep telling FI that I am praying for a high 'no' rate, especially from his family. It would cause MAJOR drama not to invite them, but he doesn't even know most of them!

calindi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ugh-more-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:bd581dac-770c-4456-985a-c89ee25056c9Post:cc80d721-4735-4a7c-b1e1-683e03296ffe">Re: Ugh more guests</a>:
[QUOTE]I keep telling FI that I am praying for a high 'no' rate, especially from his family. It would cause MAJOR drama not to invite them, but he doesn't even know most of them!
Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

This, definitely this.  FI's inviting those people who were his parents' friends that he sort of knew when he was a kid.  Are you serious?!  You don't know if this person is married or not, where they live, what they do for a living, it's been over a decade since you last saw them.  Why are we inviting them?!  Please, please say no!

cronin85

I hear ya!  I've been ready for this wedding to be over LOL  I guess eventually all brides feel this way.  Just keep reminding yourself how great your day will be!

volleygurl0306

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_ugh-more-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:bd581dac-770c-4456-985a-c89ee25056c9Post:1d317e30-c6d5-4dd0-ba95-b714debbe364">Re: Ugh more guests</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ugh more guests : This, definitely this.  FI's inviting those people who were his parents' friends that he sort of knew when he was a kid.  Are you serious?!  You don't know if this person is married or not, where they live, what they do for a living, it's been over a decade since you last saw them.  Why are we inviting them?!  Please, please say no!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

This and what Britt said are me!  My best example is last week we were printing invites and my FI has an 18 year old cousin named Dana.  I said, Radhi, is Dana a male or female (so we could write mr or miss) because it is a girls name but could be a boys name and feel like your mom said it is someones son.   Fi says "idk"!!!!!!  If you don't know who they are enough to know their sex, we have a problem!!!!

OP,  is FMIL paying for the wedding?  Otherwise I'd tell her the guest list is closed and those 25 people can't go on the list without 25 people (from her side) coming off.  If she's paying that is the only way this is acceptable though I still frown upon it because it is your day.

HelloGoodFriend

Sounds like we are all in the same boat.  It's been so stressful!!  FI and I cant wait until we are Mr. & Mrs., but we have definitely missed out on a lot of cool opportunities and had to turn them down because of the wedding.

tclopes

I'm definitely feeling the same way and so glad others are too. Don't get me wrong I'm excited and can't wait...but I'm ready to have my life back!

SCogs18

Say what?!?  25 people?? Girl, unless she is paying for all this, put your foot down and just say NO!

Roxana&raul

omg... Im with you as well. Im having a traditional mexican wedding and there is no such thing as "RSVP" We are giving out 300 invitations, so we multiply that by 3 each and thats 900 people that could be coming. We are expecting 500 people out of that 900. As long as it doesn't go over 1000 people, because thats the capacity. then we are good.

BethSt

I'm with you on all fronts.  I know I'm going to regret not "savoring" the process, but I'm so tired of all the little details and annoyances! I just want this shindig to happen.   I'm also counting on (and hoping for) a lot of no rsvp's.  My whole list is from out of town, so I've already gotten a bunch of no's.  Really wanted a small wedding but it's impossible with divorces, remarriages, etc., turns out having a Vermont wedding is akin to a destination wedding!