Okay, I'm going to try to keep this brief.
My mom is adopted. Never had anything to do with her birthparents until a couple of years ago. A couple weeks after meeting her dad, he died of a heart attack. My mom has two brothers on that side (birth side). We'll call them A, B, and C.
My mom has been giving my grief about the guestlist since the beginning of time it seems like. There aren't enough people. I'm inviting some cousins and not others. Well, our budget can't handle it and I don't know these people. honestly, if they were mad at me for not inviting them , it wouldn't affect my life at all. Okay... so...
I told my mom I'm inviting her birth mom. She said cool. We'll you can't invite her without inviting A because they live together and I've seen A as much as I've seen her. I'm not really close with any of them, but I really like them like a family friend kind of.
So my mom pleaded with me to invite B and C and their wives. FI agreed so we planned to. Well I talk to my mom today and she said she wants me to subsitute B and C for grandma's close girlfriends who will apparently be helping with the bridal shower. I was so stunned I didn't know what to say. I find it odd that we would forego inviting her bio brothers and invite two of the girlfriends. I don't know them. This is the first I've ever heard of them. Ever in my life.
I didn't say anything and the conversation continued to something else. Now that I've thought more about it I don't want to. I was going to tell my mom that I'm not comfortable inviting girlfriends instead of family we had decided on inviting and we have already maxed the budget. I could probably squeeze them in, but I know FI wouldn't be happy about random old ladies that we have never even heard of.
Sooo... am I wrong? What would you say/do? I really, really, really wish my mom would STOP bringing up the guestlist because it only turns into a "thing".