My MOH is planning a "bachelorette day", and has been very excited about it. She's definitely going above and beyond, I never really wanted to have a b-party, just maybe a night out with friends if schedules lined up. Regardless, I've found myself in a sticky guest list situation.
MOH and I discussed the guest list and MOH mentioned that there will be 2 events: "bachelorette day event" and "bachelorette evening event". The evening event is a bar outing and MOH plans to invite my 3 BMs and several high school friends to that. The day event is more intimate, going to include MOH, 3 BMs (all traveling from OOT) and one high school friend - let's call her Jane.
Jane has been very excited about the wedding and has asked to help MOH with planning both b-party events (and maybe the shower? I'm not sure the extent of the "help" she's offered). MOH is really excited for Jane to help as we're all good friends. Anyway, I'd love for Jane to be involved if she wants to but I'm afraid she's going to be singled out as she's the only non-BM at the day event.
I'm not about to uninvite Jane to the day thing (not my guest list!), but I am really worried about her being the 6th wheel. I am also worried about evening guests being upset they weren't invited to the day event, particularly one friend who I could tell was a little upset about not being asked to be a bridesmaid.
I guess this is more of a vent than anything... I can't control the guest list(s) and I don't know what the day event involves (though I have a good guess). But, do I get a gift for Jane for helping to plan things? I don't think she's an official host so I don't know what to do!
I just feel really bad about it and I'm hoping this doesn't feel as awkward the day of as it does now!