September 2012 Weddings

No sex before marriage...

FI and I were laying in bed last night, talking about the wedding, when he turned to me and said, "I think we should stop having sex until the wedding."  I looked at him and laughed, because neither of us are religious, nor are we having a religious ceremony. FI has a habit of making jokes and being extremely sarcastic. My family members have a hard time telling if he's being serious or if he's joking.  I rolled over and said, "Okay, whatever you say. You won't last a week."  He said, "No, I'm serious. I think it would make the wedding night that much more interesting." I was floored. We've been together 6 1/2 years, lived together for 3. I'm not really sure how to handle this. I pray that he's being his usual smartass self, but now I'm starting to question how serious he really is. Anyone have any advice how to approach this? 
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  • I had actually considered it too but I know we'll be way too tired the night of the wedding to even do it lol
    Funny how despite FI not really caring much for sex, he was against the idea. As long as I'd be allowed "alternatives" I'd be game :P
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  • I considered it, but then I thought. We're both going to be so... strung out (lol) that we would last two seconds. How special would that be? Plus, it's really painful for FI after a certain period of time and we would end up just fighting constantly because we were wired. Not a good thing.

    Why not abstain for two weeks before or something like that? That way it won't feel like just another night, but you didn't kill yourselves to get there, ya know?
  • Thanks for the input, ladies. A few weeks before the wedding is a good idea. We'll both be so busy, I'm sure we won't have time to sleep, let alone have sex. Haha!
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  • I was thinking you could have some fun with this... say  yes - and then see how soon you can get him to cave...

    but seriously - a few weeks before the wedding does sound like the best idea
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_no-sex-before-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:d7dfd41d-08c7-4b0f-8908-72dbf49af351Post:7caac232-3b27-4fa8-bb17-24ec175c5ef2">Re: No sex before marriage...</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I was thinking you could have some fun with this... say  yes - and then see how soon you can get him to cave...</strong> but seriously - a few weeks before the wedding does sound like the best idea
    Posted by spalihena[/QUOTE]

    This is what I was thinking!  FI and I like to make bets, I would place something on it and see what happens :)
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  • FI and I joked about it but then we both actually got on board to do it for the month preceeding the wedding.  We figure this was just long enough to make it special and add some anticipation but not too long to make us tense or put too much pressure on that night.  We are hoping to sneak away at the wedding at some point so at the end of the night the pressure is off haha.  A month works for us (well, I think it will...I plan on teasing a lot to make it tough on him tho)....maybe discuss something a little more reasonable.
  • Yeah...that would never fly around here!  We are actually staying at our hotel/spa the night before our wedding (where we are having the wedding too), so we are probably going to have sex in the morning and then see each other off for the getting ready party of the day.  This way we have something special that day without the stress of being exhausted that night!
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    [QUOTE]We are hoping to sneak away at the wedding at some point so at the end of the night the pressure is off haha. 
    Posted by volleygurl0306[/QUOTE]

    <div>Call me trashy, but I love it haha...  If we weren't being married on-site, I'd consider it.  Nice ;0)</div>
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  • That would never work. We would only be able to have sex once on our honeymoon if we did that!

    Plus, for me sex is a stress reliever. The more stressed I am the more he is going to be relieving my stress. :P
  • FI and I could never go that long.  We'd break up before we ever made it to the wedding.  We start fighting way more when we're both in need of sex.  I like the idea of a couple weeks before.  I've been thinking about the same thing, but I don't know what FI and I will do.  I don't know if I want to deal with all the stress of the impending wedding without being able to "relax" during that time.

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