So for financial reasons we decided to email our save the date (pic below). In the email body we are going to individually address people (not a mass email) so they know who is invited in their household (we aren't having kids at the wedidng). Do you think it is rude/tacky/unnecessary under our signature to say "P.S. Please don't forward this as it was meant specially for you" or something like that. I guess it is possible for univited guests to see a standard save the date but these days forwarding an email is so easy I don't want them to end up in the wrong hands and then people are upset when they aren't invited. I don't want to be rude but almost every standard etiquette thing I've said to FMIL that people supposedly (according to the etiquette board) understand, FMIL says "well, our family won't know that."
They aren't actually going to every guest...just those who have to get on a plane, the WP, and our immediate families. So, for the most part that is not FI's family FMIL was talking about since his family is local and mine isn't. Should I just avoid sending to any of his family so people arent peeved if they hear someone got one and they didn't? FMIL has done an overly good job of telling people when our wedding is (including a lot of people we don't want there). They really are meant more for my side.
Somehow this got really stressful! Help, please!!! TIA