Need to rip the band-aid...

volleygurl0306

...and start making calls for non-RSVPers!   I've been so busy I get maybe 1/3 of my daily to do lists done and have better things to do with my time than track down grown adults who should be courteous.  I don't mind so much the people who I haven't heard from since we sent the invites because I can at least ask if you got it as a way of easing into it.  But, like one couple I handed them the invitation because they were about to move and I thought it would be more efficient and we didnt get a response!  All but 4 people are OOT so they are probably mainly no's but you never know I guess.  FMIL did us a huge favor and handled FI's extended family.  Two people haven't responded to her voicemail.  Two were maybe's but the one live in TX for our VA wedding so don't you kinda need to have a flight/hotel/etc.  And the other is his older aunt who doesn't drive and no one lives near her so if you haven't found a relative willing to pick you up, you kinda have to figure this out, no?  I know I'm an over-planner but 3 weeks out you probably should have made plans considering you've had the invitation for 6 weeks and the STD for 6 months.

I know we all have dealt with this, so can someone please share how they 1. motivated themselves to call and 2. didn't jump down the throats of people who still give a maybe.

kmleon83

i have to be honest..i delegated all of the contacting. lol. made my mom and grandma do my family calling, and fmil do her family's contacting. i made fi get in touch with his friends and surprisingly, all of mine had rsvp'd! i can't tolerate speaking to many people on the phone; it's a huge character flaw, i know, but i'm on the phone all day at work..the absolute last thing i want to do it call people when i get home.

so yeah, maybe not a good example there but i definitely feel you on the annoyance at having to do it! i do not know where peoples' manners go.. it's not that hard to drop a pre-stamped envelope in your mailbox with a check mark next to yes or no.

best of luck, lady!

sparksfly

We didn't really have maybes ... mostly the people we had to track down were people who just forgot to send it in or thought they sent it but it was sitting on their counter or something. We had a lot of OOT people who surprised us with yes's but were working hard until the last minute to try and make arrangements for their kids while they traveled. Most people will likely apologize for not getting back quicker. It's hard to remember that while this wedding is our all consuming thought, it's pretty back-burner for most of the guests. 

Definitely try splitting up the list if you need to ... my parents, FMIL, and FI were all majorly helpful in tracking down those late responders!

You can do it! Good luck!

meghwood

Agree with PP- I delegated almost all of the contacting to my mom, FMIL, and FI since it was their guests that had not responded. The few people I did have to speak to I just tried to be pretty calm and not sound like I was demanding an answer, but rather gently reminding them that we had to let the caterer know by a certain date how many guests we were having. Good luck!

Ravenclaw79

I motivated myself to call my mom and have her handle it.   Of course, that was one person... for most, I had to motivate my FH, 'cause they were on his side and I don't even know these people.

mspurr

I sent texts and emails to my friends and got responses back from almost everyone within an hour or two.  I asked my mom to contact her cousins we had not heard from and FI to contact friends and family that I did not know.  It was actually pretty painless.

BMcLeodTeam

I have to admit this was one of my least favourite parts of the entire planning process thus far!!!

caitsboray

Today is my RSVP BY date and im happy to say I am only waiting on 3 RSVPs but 2 of them told me they are coming already so im basically just waiting on the 1 family.



went and got our marriage license! CHECK!
its getting so real!!

22 days )

bobbi62

Out of 75 invitations, I had about 5 non rsvp-ers, and I didn't call them. If they don't respond, it's a no to me.  A few ended up emailing me and telling me they "might" come, and I haven't responded to their "might yet", but if someone doesn't respond via rsvp, I assume they aren't coming.  ... but then again the 5 that didn't respond are not the closest relatives, so it was no big deal to me.