Anybody else let down by their wedding?

melissa199

I love seeing all of the posts about how perfect and beautiful everybody's days were. I'm very glad that all of them didn't have the complete let down and disappointment my wedding was. The curls fell out of my hair, and I cried all my make up off walking down the aisle. Otherwise, my ceremony was fine. But the reception totally blew. The only thing I enjoyed was my first dance, father daughter dance and dollar dance. The DJ was not good at all. Didn't follow my itenary, didn't play the music we suggested. I had no time to eat or drink. My mother and brother got in a HUGE fight which caused a pretty terrible scene. And even my mini honeymoon was ruined. Don't get me wrong, I am soo happy to be married to my best friend, just wish my memories surrounding the day could have been better.

BMcLeodTeam

Things didn't exactly go 'according to plan' but I think because I knew that's how these things happen that's why it still made the day perfect.

It poured during our outdoor wedding so we had to go with a rain plan. We paid to use Wedit but forgot the cameras back in my room. Due to the rain causing things to be held up we ran short on photo time despite having scheduled 2 hours for them. Then DH and I had to wait in the clubhouse of the golf side of the resort for a good half hour due to some glitch inside that no one told us what it was. We had no programs because I forgot them at home after taking the time and money to make them.

The reception went well, didn't eat as much as I'd like, but enjoyed what I did. Didn't get dessert minus the cake DH and I fed each other. We had like 20 no shows, so you couldn't miss the empty chairs around. We snuck away to try to get a few more pictures in with our photogs and missed the whole thing where my sister (who caught the bouquet) and her bf (who caught the garter) were pulled up on the dance floor. I forgot my flats. Our headtable had no draping as that was also left at home.

We then missed our flight to our honeymoon, and had to catch another one. While in Cabo we were hit with a tropical storm and were stuck down by the marina as due to the flooded streets they couldn't get us back to our resort because the taxis couldn't drive there....

BUT.... I celebrated with amazing friends and family, got some quality time with my AMAZING husband. Our photos so far are gorgeous, and everything else just adds to the story at the end of the day I would still say my day was perfect as far as I'm concerned because at the end of it we were happily married

morenachica110

I'm with PP. Things didn't go exactly as planned for me either.

The shoes I bought to wear were WAY too small so I had to wear a pair of sandals that I had. I was late walking down the aisle because no one came to tell me and the BMs that we were starting (they just started walking). I didn't get a lot of the photos I had in mind. Half of my right false lash pulled off at the end of the ceremony because I had started crying. My dress literally had bugs getting caught in the tulle skirt. FIL got super drunk and started talking about his "ex wife" (they are NOT divorced). The DJ started announcing us into the reception but the officiant stopped us to sign the license so she could go home. We had a bunch of no shows (evident by the dozen or so escort cards that weren't taken). I had 2 broken hours of sleep the night before and was extremely nauseous from nerves. I was going to the toilet constantly all that morning (TMI but you know..) My MOH was supposed to pick me up and take me to my hair appt that morning, but H had to drive me because MOH and her fiance were choosing shoes... for that day.

The list goes on and on. But you kind of just have to let it go. I'm sorry it didn't turn out like you dreamed, but try and concentrate on the moments that were so special to you. Like the first time you saw your now H. Maybe someone you didn't think would show was there? Try and think about the good things and laugh off the bad. Yeah, bugs got caught in the dress. I tried to get them out and then said eff it and kept dancing. Hopefully you can find comfort in the good

AriesAngel86

I think part of the issue is that a lot of brides (myself included) put so much pressure on ourselves for the day to be perfect. We put so much time/effort/money into planning the PERFECT day, that when unexpected things happen it IS very disapointing. 

Our outdoor ceremony was moved inside due to rain. Our indoor space was gorgeous, but a few days prior to the ceremony I was really bummed about because I hadn't envisioned myself getting married inside. My hair didn't turn out the way I wanted, and the hair lady was rude when I asked if it could be tweaked a bit. It also was flying out all over the place by the end of the night. Otherwise, the day went really really well so I choose to try to focus on those things (I still get a little irritated looking at pictures of my hair though!). I'm also sad that we didn't have a honeymoon... we used too much vacation time traveling to plan the wedding. 

AngB1230

I didn't listen to it when everyone said "it's all about marrying your partner" like pp said there is so much pressure for everything to be perfect but in the end that was ALL that mattered!everything could have gone wrong but in the end I remember standing up there with my husband and surrounded by our friends and family. Yes there was def thing that went wrong I thought before the wedding that if certain things went wrong I was going to flip out but in the end I pretty much laughed it off

NO2012

Ditto pp. I've been in a borderline funk since I got home on Sunday from our Saturday wedding because things didn't go perfectly. It was an amazing weekend no doubt despite the rain and all of the problems the transportation company caused by being late. Part of my problem is that the ceremony and reception itself are such a blur to me that I am having to rely on other people to reassure that they had a blast the entire wedding weekend with all of the events we had scheduled and to tell me how great the ceremony and reception were. I'm battling the funk by hanging in to the distinct memories I have of my 9 year old stepson telling me from the front pew not to cry and to smile as I walked down the aisle, having both of FIs kids right next to us as we said our vows, and the kids dancing their tails off all night and being the life of the party. If I focus on the rain or the fact that the live band that we hired for one hour for the sole purpose of singing our first dance song chose to WHISTLE through the words instead of singing them WTF!, I might hurt someone. Haha. So I remember the purpose of this whole 4 day production I put together and know that I am married now. You are not alone! HTH.

mcda04

not EVERYTHING goes as planned usually. i had the same issue with my DJ, it literally sucked. like really really bad, our cake was dry and not at all like the tasting, other than that, I had so much fun and our day was amazing. I just smiled and brushed it off. 

softballbabe1515

Lets see, we had issues with the hair and make up appointments and were late because of that.  There was another bridal party at the same salon and they had switched around one of the other girls with one of mine so that was just annoying.  Then they cancelled 2 of my girls' make up when they were only supposed to do one so they had to squeeze that in before she got her hair done.  Our photographer said be there at 12 so we were all there at 12:05 or so.  The ceremony was at 1.  So while the girl was with us the guy was supposed to be taking pictures of the guys getting ready and what not.  Well he said the guys weren't in there, which they were, and decided to go take pictures of the grounds.  Needless to say I don't feel like we had enough pictures taken.  During the ceremony my garter fell down to my ankle and I had to kick it to my bridesmaids, which gave everyone a good laugh.  Apparently my stress induced weight loss was just in my thighs.  The ceremony was a full mass so it was supposed to be just a little over an hour, so it was very surprising to me when the limo showed up and we weren't ready to go at 2:45.  The limo was great and a lot of fun except when the driver missed the exit and had to turn around and then charged us for the extra 15 minutes it took him to get us to the right place.  I didn't know this until the next day.  He said something to my husband and BIL and made us pay an extra $100 because we didn't tip enough either.  Whatever.  Then when we were getting introduced(when people were supposed to be able to get dinner) the DJ said the wrong name. He said Brittany instead of Brianna.  Then we got to eat and I had a little bit of everything off my plate and couldn't eat anymore because my dress was tied too tight.  I only was able to taste the cake when he shoved it in my face.  Everything else went fine.  Except one the ushers kept asking me to dance and I said no like 10 times then he went and complained to my husband "Why won't your wife dance with me? Make her dance with me." Then my wonderful husband said, "Dude she doesn't like you so she doesn't want to dance with you.  Get over it.'  That made me happy   Then the usher proceeded to hit on my Aunt then my cousin it was horrible.  I wasn't able to drink a lot which was fine since I wanted to drive home anyway.  DH got "plowed" as he calls it.  It completely ruined our wedding night.  He went into a fit of rage and said some mean things and punched a door then apologized and passed out.  Our honeymoon was beautiful. Long flights but it was great.

softballbabe1515

Oh and my mom took my shoes after the ceremony because she thought I changed into a different pair so whenever we stopped I couldn't go in.  Luckily we just drove around MSU campus and had fun.  It was the MSU Notre Dame game so everyone was tailgating.

calindi

I'm a little bummed that there doesn't seem to be any photos of DH's face during the ceremony, nor our first look.  I wish I could eat the food again because while I did eat, I didn't get to try everything nor eat dessert.  I wish the bus did the loops it was supposed to do and didn't make half our guests who had planned to take it drive to the reception.

Other than that, I'm just so thrilled to be married to my husband!

cronin85

Mine was too!    90% of the stuff I dont even remember because it went by too quickly.  My cake was stale! (tasted like it was left on the counter for 3 days before they served it), they played the wrong song for our first dance, florist never delivered the boutineers and lastly... my dress got stuck in the limo door and ripped when I started to walk!

I'm so happy to finally be married and we had a great honeymoon but it just stinks that after 2 years of planning a wedding these are the memories I am stuck with

jamie5482

I feel not really upset about the wedding being over exactly but more disappointed and hurt that my little brother didn't show up. His car broke down and it's a long story but I haven't heard from him at all. I think it just added to the trauma of my mom not being there (early onset dementia for her and drug addiction for my brother... not the best situation). 

The other stuff was just funny - my husband forgot his shoes, the flower girl gifts, and he forgot to tip everyone (he had planned to give one of the groomsmen the tips so we had to mail checks afterwards). My hair went completely flat (not surprising considering my stubborn straight hair and the humidity) and my veil kept falling out. I was so hot all night long and my poor husband was worried about everything going perfectly we barely had any appetite between us. After the reception the rest of the cake got thrown away by accident so that was kind of a bummer. 

It was nice out all day long right up until the ceremony time. The bridesmaids and I had already started walking down the hallway when the coordinator called my room so one bridesmaid went back to answer the phone and was told "you need to get down here NOW". Once we got outside we were greeted by the most ominous stormy clouds ever... but we went ahead anways! My husband and I were laughing during the ceremony a bit because it rained a little bit on us. We pretty much went straight to the vows since the wind picked up and blew over a little tree nearly onto my dress. I think all of the guests were on the edge of their seats thinking they were going to get drenched. Literally as soon as everyone got inside it started pouring like crazy! 

jezpez717

They played the song for my husband and the officiant the whole time instead of changing it to the song for the wedding party..  they totally miss numbered the tables so people were sitting in the most random spots, like my family table was off to the side, the two tables of my work friends were on opposite sides..  it was 105 degrees out..  we forgot to sign the marriage license. my now husband almost got in a fight with an ex army guy who was trying to use the bar when I had specifically paid for it to be open for my wedding(ended up getting security involved) we both got smashed by the end of the night but the wedding night was still fun lol

QueerFemme

My MOH, who was walking me down the aisle tripped THREE times, and I had to hold her up. 

My fake eyelash fell off and landed on my boob during the ceremony. 

Our 11 person, all female, $1100.00 Mariachi band, who was supposed to play from 4-5:30 showed up at 4:15 with three people, and one of them was male.  The rest of them didn't show up until 5:15. 

We never ate food or cake. (except for the bites of cake I ate in the kitchen with a pair of serving tongs at the end of the reception).

Over 2/3 of the friends/family who offered to help clean up at the end of the reception got drunk and left early.  So, I was in my wedding gown carrying cases of wine out to the rental van at the end of the reception and mopping the floor.

We missed getting a TON of pictures that I wanted to, because we were running a little bit behind.  My SIL's boyfriend, who had one of the ringbearers was supposed to arrive on Friday night, and didn't.  So, we had no pictures of the kids before the ceremony and could only get them to stay calm for about 5 minutes after the ceremony.   I love our photos overall, but I know the timing really caused us to miss some of the shots I really wanted.

We had almost 20 no-shows. 

The tablecloths that I was planning to resell got tied in a plastic bag wet, and by the next day, they were all covered with mold (that was $500.00 worth of linens).

So, yeah... nothing ever goes as planned.

em105

I just came back and read this and wanted to purchase several shots of tequila (and a couple glasses of wine) for y'all.  

I feel and felt extremely lucky and blessed that it went far better than I had expected.  I think part of that is because I really have never dreamed about a wedding before (I was the little girl who played President instead of bride.).  We also were so blessed to have really REALLY good professionals who were worth every. single. penny.

Our things that went wrong were really small.  People didn't realize that there was parking at the venue so they just street-parked (NBD- really), I somehow forgot enough boutoinerre pins so my father, my husband and our best man (no other GM) had them but my FIL and other people I wanted to have them didn't have my awesome handcrafted peacock feather boutoinerres.  I think they might have introduced my father as my stepfather for the father daughter dance.  My veil got caught on my 'something borrowed' bracelet which was kind of annoying.  I would have liked to dance more, but people really wanted more pictures (big family portrait type stuff) and I don't regret the choices we did make.

Hugs and shots for everyone who felt let down!

southofnormal

We had 50 MPH winds and some rain at our outdoor wedding but we carried on.  :-) It went much better than I was hoping and it was so much fun, all of it, the whole weekend.