Confession Thursday

Johnsonk313

Hey ladies, Sorry the post is so late. I'm in a training all day and forgot it was Thursday so this is a sneak knot lol. But here it is so let those confessions fly. My confession is the thought of taking Fi name is causing me more anxiety than I thought it would. I was always one of those girls who always wanted to get married, be a wife and take my husband name, but now I am faced with the reality it makes me really sad. I have been me for almost 32 yrs and now I won't be. And in 5 years there will be people who won't even know who I was before. I thought about hyphenating but it would be too long, and it's a deal breaker for Fi. I know I will get over it, but it is feeling kinda suckie right now :

akbrown19

i confess that i'm going through the same exact thing! i confess that i am super confused about what to do and no matter how many articles i read that stress "you should do what feels best and/or right for you" i confess that i have absolutely no idea what feels best! i am so torn.

i think it's an identity thing for me too... like i have been this person my whole life but at the same time i know a name won't change who i am on the inside. my last name is super, super easy - no one ever asks me how to spell it. but it's not unique the way his is - i like the sound and spelling of his too, so it doesn't make the decision easier!

entropicbeauty

Confession: I do not have enough to do at work this week. I asked my boss for some new projects and haven't seen any. All of my currently assigned projects have progressed as far as they can until I hear back from certain parties. It's frustrating and I am incredibly bored (thus spending too much time on TK!)

mamameech

I can totally appreciate your anxiety over the name change. I'll be 32 this December and I can't really imagine being someone other that Michelle Matthieu. Plus, my son has my last name so I don't want to let go of mine and leave him as the "odd man out" if we have more kids (he'd be the only "Matthieu"). I have nothing agains "Higgins" and will love for people to refer to me as Mrs. Higgins; I'm just not officially changing my name.

My confession... I wonder if my sister is gay. This may seem totally out there but I had a convo with a friend the other day and this thought has been lingering. She's almost 28, has never had a boyfriend and the person she brings to all our family events and holidays is a very close female friend she roomed with in college. I love her friend like family so it's all good, but she also never has boyfriends. If she my sister is gay, all the power to her and it wouldn't change a single thing between us, it just makes me kinda wonder.

BMcLeodTeam

I confess that I SO over the wedding right now hahaha... fast forward to the honeymoon anyone?

MissOwl

I confess that I'm having a nutty reaction to my friend's vacation. Just after FI and I booked our Southern Caribbean cruise, I found out my friend and bridesmaid just booked a spring break cruise to 3 of the same islands (she didn't know where we were going). I am irrationally annoyed. 

josephwedding

I confess I'm SO OVER PLANNING! I just want to get married, go on my honeymoon, & start my life as a married couple with FH. 

I also confess my inner cheapskate is coming out on spending $1,350 for a DJ. I know he'll be awesome & so worth it, but $13,50 is soooo expensive. I just wanted a small beach wedding somewhere warm where there are cobana boys bringing people drinks with little umbrellas.... 

EDIT: I also confess that I think our ceremony music might sound like a hot jumbled mess... I feel like there is no flow. FI & I are terrible at picking music that'll "go together".  

We've preliminarly decided on: 

Prelude: Easy Listening :(i.e. Sinantra, Michael Buble`) 

Processional: Cannon in D

My entrance "I'm Yours" Jason Mraz

Recessional: Peanuts Theme 

I'm just not sure how all this will go together. And I'm not sure I really like the Peanuts Theme for a recessional... again, stressing waaaaay too much over this lol. 

gabriel0915

I confess that I totally lie to my FI about dieting. I work out, but may skimp on food that I eat during the day. I'm actually trying now, but he's so fit it's gross lol but part of me loves how I am now and doesn't want it to change. I also confess that I honestly hate my FMIL. She has been horrible to me from day 1 and I have done nothing wrong to her. She hates me because of 2 reasons: 1. she wanted him to have a huge catholic wedding 2. He works out and I don't. She is pushing me to a point where I never want to be around her and would be perfectly fine if she didn't show up at our wedding....and like Brit said, I'm over wedding planning lol.

volleygurl0306

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[QUOTE]I confess that I SO over the wedding right now hahaha... fast forward to the honeymoon anyone?
Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

This is me!  Though FI is totally aware of it so not much a confession for me.  I told him I'm ranking everything:
1. Ceremony (just to make it official and hear each other's original vows...but this could be done at a courthouse for me not in front of 150 people)
2. HM
3. Wedding Night
4. Reception

Confession:  Some nights I like that FI is long distance right now.  I LOVE him so much and we have so much fun but when he was home he was working for himself which meant he worked from 8a-12pm or 1pm and then was home until the next morning.  When I'd get home from work around 5:30pm I never really had any time to myself.  I'd have to go into the other room to study but he'd pop in all the time asking if I was done yet because he was bored.  With him away I'm ahead on my school work, have time to do wedding stuff during the week (used to be a weekend only thing) and don't watch as much TV.  And, when I watch TV I can watch my girly shows (Smash, Four Weddings, SYTTD, etc) which I never used to do because we'd always watch TV together.  He'd be okay with a girly show here and there but not hours of it like I can do now if I want.  Most the time I do miss him and absolutely miss sleeping next to him every night....but when he moves back I think I'm going to make him get a hobby at least one night a week so I can have some me time!

celticmyss

I confess I got a bit of enjoyment out of seeing recent pics of my last serious bf on FB yesterday. He has gained a significant amount of weight. The reason this amuses me is that he used to give me a hard time about my weight all the time. This was despite the fact that he and was far from skinny and did all the cooking which usually consisted of things that were deep fried and soaked in cream. He was kind of a d!ck and this is one of the many reasons he is my ex-bf. 

It just makes my weight loss all the more sweet. 

I'm also ready to skip the wedding and go right to the honeymoon. That's not much of a confession though, I'm quite open about it! 

AnnamarieZTA

I confess that I am SO OVER my job and ready for the wedding planning to be over with! I am just annoyed with everything right now!
I also confess that when I woke up this morning I had a minor anxiety attack once I realized today was the 6 month mark and we still have things to do! Ahh!

mamameech

Maybe it's because our HM won't be until about 5-6 months post wedding that I'm not as eager to skip to the honeymoon. I'm actually really loving the planning and I'm so excited for the big day. FI shares the excitement too which only makes my excitement grow. I'm also looking forward to some of our relatives (the ones we like haha) being around for a couple weeks so it's not going to just one day of fun

Satchkat

I confess that:
- I'm with the "SO over planning" team
- I also hate my job, my pay is ridiculous and it feels like I'm volunteering more than being paid. We have a plan to get pregnant ASAP after the wedding and I go on maternity leave as soon as I can, and never come back. We're moving next year to a different county anyway. My manager is a complete douchebag, his recent performance included saying that "jumpers are unprofessional looking" and my desk is untidy because I had paperwork on it that I was using at the time. Seriously, man? 
I really wish I could punch him and tell him that he's a complete di*khead.

PS. And I also want to punch everyone who's asking me "how's the planning going" all the fcking time. And afterwards, it will be all those ones who ask "how's the married life?". AAARGH!!!

morenachica110

I confess that I'm over planning right now too. =P lol! Seriously, I have to sit down today and go over all my lists (again!) to re-organize, maybe stop by Michael's to do something since there's actually a TON of DIY projects I could be doing but always come up with an excuse. I'm just feeling blah. I'm SO excited for the HM.

I'm trying to enjoy the planning now because I know I'll be so sad once it's over, but I'm just lacking the mojo right now. =/

junebug19

I confess that I don't want to pick the caterer my FSIL suggested for the RD simply b/c she suggested it. Its not a bad place, it would actually be one of my top picks if myself or someone chose it, but she is being so frustrating right now! I ask for her opinions, and suggestions and (if she isn't crazy about it) she would say either nothing, or good things, to me and then go to my sister or someone else to say how she doesn't think it will work (probably b/c my sister is more straight forward & has no problem telling me her thoughts- too bad she also has no problem forwarding e-mails.). I feel very childish right now, but I wish she would just say what's on her mind!

Mandy21161803

I confess that I am so pissed at my FMIL. She said at the beginning that she would pay for the honeymoon. Since she moved to another state and she told us a yr ago that she will pay for it, we have not heard about it again. This also gets my FI mad because she helped with all her sons wedding but ours. This just gets me mad b.c she always forgets what she says.

BMcLeodTeam

I hadn't hit the point of being 'over it' until I had my big realization today that there's only 6 months and I feel like I have SO much to do that I'm uber behind (I know, irrational)

CowgirlK39

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[QUOTE]I confess that: - I'm with the "SO over planning" team - I also hate my job, my pay is ridiculous and it feels like I'm volunteering more than being paid. We have a plan to get pregnant ASAP after the wedding and I go on maternity leave as soon as I can, and never come back. We're moving next year to a different county anyway. My manager is a complete douchebag, his recent performance included saying that "jumpers are unprofessional looking" and my desk is untidy because I had paperwork on it that I was using at the time. Seriously, man?  I really wish I could punch him and tell him that he's a complete di*khead. <strong>PS. And I also want to punch everyone who's asking me "how's the planning going" all the fcking time. And afterwards, it will be all those ones who ask "how's the married life?". AAARGH!!!
</strong>Posted by Satchkat[/QUOTE]

THIS!!!! I tell them "its not going" because I am actually going backwards (still don't have a ceremony site since ours stopped talking to us). AHHH.

I confess two things:

1) I am being trained in this one area at work and I could seriously care less. I intend to get the hell out of this place as soon as we are married and know where we want to be, so I don't care to learn any extra responsibilities. It would be a once in a blue moon situ that they will need me to run this area so I really don't feel the urgency in training.

2) I have a crazy craving... to see my man in his fire gear. This is hard because I would have to be at the hall with him when they get called to either a fire or car accident, so it will be a while till I get to see  this. I have always loved knights/warrior type characters, and when he puts all his gear on, he gets this really serious, focussed face, and it just seems to transform him into a knight in shining armor in my mind. It fits him to well too. Some people look stupid in fire gear, but his fits him just right. So sexy. So very, very sexy.

MrsBassPlaya

No big confessions for me.  I just confess that I'm falling alseep waiting for class to start, so I know I'm gonna end up falling asleep during class today.

romamor4

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[QUOTE]I can totally appreciate your anxiety over the name change. I'll be 32 this December and I can't really imagine being someone other that Michelle Matthieu. Plus, my son has my last name so I don't want to let go of mine and leave him as the "odd man out" if we have more kids (he'd be the only "Matthieu"). I have nothing agains "Higgins" and will love for people to refer to me as Mrs. Higgins; I'm just not officially changing my name. My confession... I wonder if my sister is gay. This may seem totally out there but I had a convo with a friend the other day and this thought has been lingering. She's almost 28, has never had a boyfriend and the person she brings to all our family events and holidays is a very close female friend she roomed with in college. I love her friend like family so it's all good, but she also never has boyfriends. If she my sister is gay, all the power to her and it wouldn't change a single thing between us, it just makes me kinda wonder.
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Michelle, I am having the same issue. What I am going to do though is change my middle name to be my current last name and then make my last name FIs last name. I really wish FI would just change his name though. lol</div><div>
</div><div>I also have this issue. It's kind of funny. I'm pretty sure my brother is gay. Everyone is pretty sure he's gay except my dad. He hasn't said anything though. I really wish he would just tell me. I really don't care either way. He's my brother, I love him dearly. He actually has a gf that he's said he broke up with, but he brings her everywhere. I love her to pieces too! But it's so funny because I saw a picture of the two of them in a gondola when they were in Venice. Their body language says it all! There is no way they were dating!?</div><div>
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romamor4

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[QUOTE] Confession:  Some nights I like that FI is long distance right now.  I LOVE him so much and we have so much fun but when he was home he was working for himself which meant he worked from 8a-12pm or 1pm and then was home until the next morning.  When I'd get home from work around 5:30pm I never really had any time to myself.  I'd have to go into the other room to study but he'd pop in all the time asking if I was done yet because he was bored.  With him away I'm ahead on my school work, have time to do wedding stuff during the week (used to be a weekend only thing) and don't watch as much TV.  And, when I watch TV I can watch my girly shows (Smash, Four Weddings, SYTTD, etc) which I never used to do because we'd always watch TV together.  He'd be okay with a girly show here and there but not hours of it like I can do now if I want.  Most the time I do miss him and absolutely miss sleeping next to him every night....but when he moves back I think I'm going to make him get a hobby at least one night a week so I can have some me time!
Posted by volleygurl0306[/QUOTE]<div>
Haha! This sounds JUST like me!!!</div>

kellycatalo

i don't have anything to confess besides that i never want to be at work. i hate sitting at a desk all day. in college i got used to doing my programming assignments whenever the mood struck me. i was able to get a lot done in short amounts of time, but it worked. i hate the fact that i have to sit at a desk and do programming ALL the time. my moods come and go throughout the day so i have a few really productive hours, but the rest of the time is just agony.

romamor4

I am getting more and more excited about planning but my lack of being able to make decisions and stick to them is becoming all the more apparent! 

celticmyss

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[QUOTE]I am getting more and more excited about planning but my lack of being able to make decisions and stick to them is becoming all the more apparent! 
Posted by romamor4[/QUOTE]

<div>Me too. Unfortunately these decisions involve the colors and overall feel of the wedding so I won't be able to waffle much longer. </div>

saracowan

I confess that people telling me they got our save-the-dates this week gave me my first tinge of "ahh!!! This is really happening! No turning back!!"

I told this to FI, and he got all sad, like I was getting cold feet. I had to remind him that it's the wedding I'm nervous about, not the marriage. We still have so much to do!!

I confess that I'm already stalking my own registry, even though it would be absurd for anyone to get me a gift this early.

ZenInMotion

I confess that I thought BM's picking their own dresses would be easy and it is turning into a nightmare!  No one wants to pick something I don't like, so I narrowed the choices down to 5.  I guess 3 are now discontinued so I just got a text from my one BM that she found a dress.  I did not like it at all.  I told her it doesn't feel like the other A-Line styles.  She is cool with it and moving on.  Why as women do we always feel so guilty telling the truth? Arrrrrrrrrr.