I am white and was raised Catholic (non-practicing now). My fiance is black, agnostic (has a Muslim last name but he is not Muslim). My grandparents don't approve of us so after over a year of fighting with them, going to counseling etc, we don't speak any more. They won't be invited to the wedding. Their daughter (my dad's sister) stuck her nose in the drama when it was going on to "defend" her parents and said some horrific things to my FI and me (i.e. told us not to have children because they would have a hard life being biracial with a Muslim last name...really???). So she and her husband are not welcome either. However, they have 3 kids (22, 19, and 8 yr old). We aren't having young kids so the 8 yo isn't a problem. However, I have attempted to keep some semblence of a relationship with my other cousins (texts on birthdays etc). The 19 yo doesn't really like me because she thinks I've been rude to her grandparents and mom and didn't invite me to her grad party. Since she hasn't attacked my actual relationship though I thought with her to be the bigger person and invite her. I don't think either of them will come but wanted to invite them anyways. Our invitations will be sent in the summer when they are home from college. It's going to be so awkward to send it to their parents house though. Also, my aunt is a HUGE b*tch (if you didn't catch that) and I'm afraid she'll throw them out before my cousins even see them. Should I not put a return address on them? Use a regular instead of "wedding" forever stamp? What would you do?