So my fiance is an only child that has divorced parents. I am pretty close with his mom (she is single) and have been for the past several years. Right before we announced our engagement I began to talk to his dad and his wife(who owns a very nice catering and wedding cake company) a lot more.
Since we are so close with his mom we naturally told here first and after we got past the congrats, she automatically said that she would pay for the food so that his dad's wife wouldn't. And of course when we told his dad and his wife there first thing that came out of their mouths is "we'll do the cake and all the food". UGGHH!! I have no idea what to do! I am close to his mom and don't want to hurt her or piss her off, but I really like what his dad's wife's company's work the food is great and it all looks amazing.
Also I received a long list of things that his dad and his wife want to pay for, and my whole life if I wanted something I had to work for it. So I don't know how to be okay with people being so generous.
How do I tell his mom I want her ex's wife to do all the food?
How do I allow myself to be okay with very generous gifts?
I know this may seem silly but I am so confused I feel like I'm having a minor culture shock.