Together with their parents/families

pzavecz

I've seen people use "together with their parents" or "together with their families" on their invites.  When would you use one versus the other or is it just a matter of personal preference?  

LeiselEB

Well, if you use together with their families it could refer to aunts, uncles, grandparents, step parents, etc. whereas together with their parents implies only parents and no other relatives. It probably doesnt make too much of a difference, but if you want to be clear on who's hosting it might.

pzavecz

In Response to Re:Together with their parents/families:[QUOTE]Well, if you use together with their families it could refer to aunts, uncles, grandparents, step parents, etc. whereas together with their parents implies only parents and no other relatives. It probably doesnt make too much of a difference, but if you want to be clear on who's hosting it might. Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

We're actually not using the "together with...." to indicate who is hosting. FI and I are the hosts. We are just putting it on there to avoid any potential drama. So in the case where you're not using it to indicate hosts, does it not matter?

lulu4150

we're using together with our parents because my parents are divorced with one parent re-married. I just thought it was too wordy with everyone's name mentioned.

From what I know the people who usually use "together with their parents" come from divorced families.

LeiselEB

Using "together" in any form indicates that you and your parents or families are hosting together. That's really the point of having any names on the invites. If you want to get across that you're hosting without feeling like you're leaving anyone out you can do this: The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of Bride full name and Groom full name Etc. That lists no one as host so it's assumed that the bride and groom are hosting. You can still do together with.. But that will imply to some people that either just your parents are hosting with you or that some members of your family or your parents and step parents are hosting with you.

vfoote

When I see together with their families, I don't think of the entire family contributing. (Can't say that I've ever heard of aunts, uncles, ect. contributing to weddings) I will be using 'families' because I do have divorced parents.

pzavecz

In Response to Re:Together with their parents/families:[QUOTE]Using "together" in any form indicates that you and your parents or families are hosting together. That's really the point of having any names on the invites. If you want to get across that you're hosting without feeling like you're leaving anyone out you can do this:

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Bride full name
and
Groom full name
Etc.

That lists no one as host so it's assumed that the bride and groom are hosting. You can still do together with.. But that will imply to some people that either just your parents are hosting with you or that some members of your family or your parents and step parents are hosting with you. Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I agree with you. I initially wanted to leave off the whole "together with..." because I figured it implied that both me, FI, and our parents were hosting. Since it is just me and my FI hosting, I thought it would be ok to just have our names on there like how you have worded it but I got some flack on another board for wanting to leave off together with their parents....saying that I just wanted to hog all the credit. That's not it at all. I was following your line of thinking. Our parents aren't hosts so I just didn't think they needed to be on there. I'm confused now.

LeiselEB

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_together-with-their-parentsfamilies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:00eebdc4-0226-4604-8427-7df6a280dbf9Post:5e8b628e-ab48-40b1-b580-50e819083069">Re: Together with their parents/families</a>:
[QUOTE]When I see together with their families, I don't think of the entire family contributing. (Can't say that I've ever heard of aunts, uncles, ect. contributing to weddings) I will be using 'families' because I do have divorced parents.
Posted by vfoote[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I don't meant that "together with their families" implies that ALL of those people are hosting - I'm saying that it doesn't specify which family members, so it COULD refer to aunts, uncles, etc. </div>

librababy

I assume when parents are listed by name, they are paying for or helping to pay for the wedding. FI and I are paying for this wedding ourselves as of now, but I chose to put 'together with their families' because we are celerbating this huge event in our lives with our families and want them to know we think they are important.  Also, jic a parent decides to help out, then it's already on the invites. It's just all inclusive.