Is this selfish? and wording help!?

acetrulo

So my fiance and I are getting married 11/22/13 and here is the situation. My fiance and I are paying for the deposits to the reception, which comes out to around $8800, we are also paying for the dj, photographer, flowers, limo, and church.

My parents are paying for my family at the reception which is around 65-70 people, my dress, my invitations, and helping with other little things along the way.

My Fiance's parents are paying for their family at the reception which is like 135 people, so way more than my family. They also paid for half the engagement party (my parents paid the other half) and I'm assuming they will pay for the rehearsal dinner but maybe my parents will split that with them, we will see.

What my problem is, although my parents and his parents are paying for a lot, my fiance and I are paying for most of it. I know traditionally the brides parents go on the invitations and there are ways to include the grooms parents, but am i being selfish because i want to include my parents, his parents, myself and my fiance? I mean I know it will be like a huge jumble of wording on the invite, but i feel like I want people to know all that my fiance and I did for the wedding? I don't know, should i just bite the bullet and just leave it alone with my parents and my fiance's parents and just leave us out? Also how would I even word all of that on an invite?

Sorry this is a huge rant, I'm just so confused. Thanks!

[Deleted User]

Could you say "Together with our Parents?"

SlothGoals

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[QUOTE]Could you say "Together with our Parents?"
Posted by riannenrings[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ditto. Also, your guests are there to see you get married, they don't need to know how much you did and they probably won't glean that from the invitation (which your names will be on regardless.)

</div><div>ETA: I also like "Together with their families"</div>

acetrulo

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[QUOTE]Could you say "Together with our Parents?"
Posted by riannenrings[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I could,

Would it be like

"Our Names"
along with their parents
"Brides Parents" &
"Grooms Parents"
Request the pleasure of your company at their wedding.
?
Is that to much? If you got that invite in the mail would be like jeez, there is alot going on there?

Also I know that people wont even remember the invites the moment after the look at them, It's the little things like this that drive me crazy

MandyLovesMarc

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[QUOTE]So my fiance and I are getting married 11/22/13 and here is the situation. My fiance and I are paying for the deposits to the reception, which comes out to around $8800, we are also paying for the dj, photographer, flowers, limo, and church. My parents are paying for my family at the reception which is around 65-70 people, my dress, my invitations, and helping with other little things along the way. My Fiance's parents are paying for their family at the reception which is like 135 people, so way more than my family. They also paid for half the engagement party (my parents paid the other half) and I'm assuming they will pay for the rehearsal dinner but maybe my parents will split that with them, we will see. What my problem is, although my parents and his parents are paying for a lot, my fiance and I are paying for most of it. I know traditionally the brides parents go on the invitations and there are ways to include the grooms parents, but am i being selfish because i want to include my parents, his parents, myself and my fiance? I mean I know it will be like a huge jumble of wording on the invite, but i feel like I want people to know all that my fiance and I did for the wedding? I don't know, should i just bite the bullet and just leave it alone with my parents and my fiance's parents and just leave us out? Also how would I even word all of that on an invite? Sorry this is a huge rant, I'm just so confused. Thanks!
Posted by acetrulo[/QUOTE]

What about "together with their parents"?   I can personally tell you that I have once received a wedding invitation and tried to figure out who footed the bill for the wedding. 

beardownbchs

CMGr will come here with the correct wording, but usually it doesn't have their names. Just:

Together with their parents,
Bride's Name
and
Groom's Name
Request the pleasure of your company
blah blah blah

SlothGoals

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is this selfish? and wording help!? : Yeah, I could, Would it be like "Our Names" along with their parents "Brides Parents" & "Grooms Parents" Request the pleasure of your company at their wedding. ? Is that to much? If you got that invite in the mail would be like jeez, there is alot going on there? Also I know that people wont even remember the invites the moment after the look at them, It's the little things like this that drive me crazy
Posted by acetrulo[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>It would be more like one of these:</div><div>
</div><div>Mr. and Mrs. Acetrulo's Parents request the pleasure of your company</div><div>at the marriage of their daughter</div><div>Acetrulo</div><div>to</div><div>Acetrulo's Fiance</div><div>Son of Mr. and Mrs. Acetrulo's FI's Parents</div><div>Date</div><div>Time</div><div>Location

</div><div>or</div><div>
</div><div>Mr. and Mrs. Acetrulo's Parents</div><div>&</div><div>Mr. and Mrs. Acetrulo's FI's Parents</div><div>request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children</div><div><div>Acetrulo</div><div>&</div><div>Acetrulo's Fiance</div></div><div><div>Date</div><div>Time</div><div>Location</div></div><div>
</div><div>or</div><div>
</div><div>Together with their parents</div><div><div>Acetrulo</div><div>&</div><div>Acetrulo's Fiance</div></div><div>request the pleasure of your company at their wedding</div><div><div><div>Date</div><div>Time</div><div>Location</div></div></div><div>
</div>

acetrulo

Thank you all so much for the advice! I really appreciate it, hopefully it all goes smoothly when I discuss all these ideas and wording options with my fiance and our parents and no one gets offended, but thats a whole diffrent topic lol. Thanks again!