Program wording? Divorced Parents! Help

heymank

ok, so my Fiance's parents are divorced and his dad is remarried.  I don't know how to word the programs to include the parents.   Do I put his step mother with the parents?  or should I just leave the parent's names off?-- My parents are okay with this as well.

Also I have questions regarding adding grandparents on the program.  I would like to acknowledge my grandparents.( of course I wouldn't if I don't put the parents on)  However, all of my Fiance's grandparents have passed away so I don't know if it will look right to have mine and not his.  I prefer not to have a memorial section as it would be quite extensive for our families and I would hate to miss someone which would be a big deal to my family

Please help with any opinions! Thanks!

mlg78

For parents you'd just list:

Grooms Mom

Grooms Father & Stepmother

I'd leave off grandparents.

jravenna

There really aren't any guidelines or requirements for programs -- it's all up to you and your fiance and the relationships you have with your families. For example, my parents are divorced, both remarried, and I'm not close to either of my stepparents. Also, my mom did not change her last name so, even though they're divorced, my parents both still have the same last name. So on our programs, I'm probably going to list them as "Dad LastName and Mom LastName" and not include my stepparents. For my FH's parents, who are still married, we'll list them and "Dad and Mom LastName" so that it's clear they're together. 

That said, my family is not likely to throw a temper tantrum about something like this, so I'm not overthinking it too much. If your FH's family is going to be sensitive to it, definitely keep that in mind.

For grandparents, I think it's nice to list the grandparents' names who are going to be at the wedding, even if it's only one side of the family. Guests will understand that a lot of people's grandparents are not around. But again, there are no rules, so just do whatever feels right to you and your FH.

crazypuglady

Both sets of parents for us are divorced with the same last names. We are going to have other family members usher them in.. My mother has a boyfriend and she will be ushered by him, FI's mom and grandmother will be ushered by FI's uncle, FI's dad will escort FI's other grandmother. This way, I will acknowledge grandparents in the program, and keeping everyone separated lol. We are also having a memorial section mentioning my Grandparents who have passed, and FI's two grandfathers that have passed. We are also placing flowers on chairs up front to represent lost love ones. My suggestion to you.. If the Grandparents and Stepparents are part of your processional, mention them. Otherwise, leave them off. You can still do a memorial section, but keep it to grandparents. "The Bride and Groom would like to remember Mr and Mrs Last Name, grandparents of the groom, who regretfully are not with us today." Or something like that. I wouldn't worry about mentioning every single person you know who has passed, but maybe immediate family members or someone you were particularly close to.