Put where your register on invites?

BJP2010

My soon to be mother in law told me that she heard that it was tacky to put where you registered at on your invites.  I had never heard that and I actually don't like it when people don't put it on there.   I know you can look it up online but my family doesn't do technology, so that just won't work for us.  So, is it okay if I put where I'm registered on our invites?

akmackay

No. Do not put it on there. If people want to know, they will ask. It is extremely distasteful to put it on your invitations.

katielea2

My step mom suggested to put them in the invites, but my grandmother, who is big on being proper, says it's tacky to do that.  So I've decided to compromise and put them on the bridal shower invites.  According to my grandmother, since the MOH is hosting the shower, it's not coming directly from us, so it's fine.  But since the wedding invites are coming from us directly, it's not proper.  I don't know, my grandmother is stuck in the past.  But that's my two cents.

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It's fine to put them on shower invites as that's the point of the shower, to shower the bride and groom with gifts. Do not put them on the wedding invites. That is considered very rude.

psichick

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[QUOTE]My step mom suggested to put them in the invites, but my grandmother, who is big on being proper, says it's tacky to do that.  So I've decided to compromise and put them on the bridal shower invites.  According to my grandmother, since the MOH is hosting the shower, it's not coming directly from us, so it's fine.  But since the wedding invites are coming from us directly, it's not proper.  I don't know, my grandmother is stuck in the past.  But that's my two cents.
Posted by katielea2[/QUOTE]

your grandmother is not stuck in the past. this is completely correct in terms of etiquette and she is 100% right that this is what should be done.

caitm730

PP are totally right. It is fine to include it with shower invites, but it should never be included on or with your wedding invite.

squirrly

On SHOWER invitations if the invitations are issued by someone other than you, your FI, or either of your mothers, then it's ok.

On WEDDING invitations, it is never ok, under any circumstances, to mention anything at all related to gifts, registries, etc. anywhere on anything that goes in that envelope.  Super tacky.  Word of mouth is acceptable.

sdl82

The girls are right. Do not put registry information in the invitation. We are doing it by word or mouth and our wedding website. We included the address to our website on the accomodation card. There is a page with registry information there along with other information about the wedding.

Kristin789

What?
Of course not.

The people who will be invited to this wedding have been to many weddings, and they know to ask the bride's mother where you have established a registry. 

If you have not been to many weddings, rely on the advice of your mother and your FMIL who HAVE been to many weddings and know how this is done.