Invite issue with FMIL

wowand135

FMIL has wanted a black and white wedding from the beginning. I thought she accepted it when I decided on purple and white.

I sent her pictures of some sample invites I received. Most are in purple, but one was in black and white b/c it was a sample so I told her look at this design but picture it in purple. She asked me to email them so she could see better so I did. 

Then she texts me and says I like sample #2 in black because FI is wearing black and it's in the evening.

I wrote back and said it would be in purple so do you still like that design best? No response.

1. Is it typical to match invitation color with the wedding colors?

2. Am I being unreasonable? Is she? I don't care that much about the invites but I do care that they match, unless that's weird or something.

MyNameIsNot

Pick whatever invitations you like.  Unless FMIL is paying for the invitations, don't ask her which ones she likes.  

Although I would run the wording by her if you haven't already.  Parents sometimes get bent out of shape about their names being included or excluded.  

pattib5

It's typical to have you invites in the same color scheme as the wedding. If your colors are a light and airy purple and white, a black invitation would seem heavy in contrast. That's not to say you can't do an elegant invitation without the purple.

Our wedding colors feature prominently around eggplant, but we actually didn't use any purple on our invites. Just pewter and off-white. That said, if you and your FI want purple invitations, then get purple invitations and ignore your FMIL's little tantrum.