Invites and +1

bmbreeding

My wedding is in June of 2011 and I am trying to put the guest list together.  My mom wants to invite EVERYONE she knows while I am trying to keep the budget straight.  I am trying to find wiggle room in the list and don't know about +1.  Should I assume that everyone will want to bring a guest or specify plus ones? Please help!

banana468

For now, I'd factor that all the people you are inviting are in serious relationships by the time you send invitations.

You don't need to invite everyone with a guest, but if people are in relationships, then the invitation is extended to the social unit and not just to one person.

loop0406

We are going with all singles plus 1 regardless if they're in serious relationships or not, we think it's considerate for them to have a dance partner, date, someone to ride together with or just hang out with at wedding. If you want to make the guest list smaller, I would invite closest friends/family and add in their +1 on your list/spread sheet

Kristin789

It's tradition in my area to NOT invite +1s unless the couple is married, engaged, or living together.  The idea is that we don't want a guest using the FOB's money and the serious spiritual ceremony of the wedding to invite a stranger/date of the month to a big Sat night dinner/dance.

Teppy007

It is really different with every family. I know my family would have been some arguments  if I did not do plus one. It allows people to have a better time if they feel comfortable if they have the option, but money wise it is up to you if you want to provide that comfort. No one  complains about be able to bring a guest, but people complain about not being able to.


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heyimbren

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invites-1-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:17b567c6-5c7e-4322-b1d5-47d6d43ded87Post:4ad5b9eb-a4bf-4429-951f-8b12bae2daa2">Re: Invites and +1</a>:
[QUOTE]It's tradition in my area to NOT invite +1s unless the couple is married, engaged, or living together.  The idea is that we don't want a guest using the FOB's money and the serious spiritual ceremony of the wedding to invite a stranger/date of the month to a big Sat night dinner/dance.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

This, except I think you should make room for those in serious relationships as well- you don't need to be living together to be serious as a couple. You don't have to give out +1s to everyone you invite, but you should for established couples.

JoyMatt424

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[QUOTE]It's tradition in my area to NOT invite +1s unless the couple is married, engaged, or living together.  The idea is that we don't want a guest using the FOB's money and the serious spiritual ceremony of the wedding to invite a stranger/date of the month to a big Sat night dinner/dance.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

This is what I am doing. If you're worried about budget I'd invite +1 if they've been dating for a while or are married or engaged. If your single people are friends you can seat them together, they will be just fine.