Wedding Invitations & Paper

FI Doesn't like this idea!!

I have a nice lady desiging our invites, and we have worded on it We have reserved __ seats in your honor.

He thinks we should just take that out, and let our guests decide how many are coming.

He doesn't mind kids there, I just want close family friends. He said to do whatever I want, but don't want to make him upset.

I don't think it's rude to put that, I tried explaining why I'd like to do this, but he doesn't get it.

Re: FI Doesn't like this idea!!

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_fi-doesnt-like-this-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1ea54cea-47e3-46d0-b1ef-8cfaad9467aePost:d48bd736-3588-49bf-bcfb-f41fa61e76d6">FI Doesn't like this idea!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a nice lady desiging our invites, and we have worded on it We have reserved __ seats in your honor. He thinks we should just take that out, and let our guests decide how many are coming. He doesn't mind kids there, I just want close family friends. He said to do whatever I want, but don't want to make him upset. I don't think it's rude to put that, I tried explaining why I'd like to do this, but he doesn't get it.
    Posted by emricmacy[/QUOTE]

    I wish I had some Baileys for my coffee right now. *facepalm*

    Your wedding is in TWO FREAKING MONTHS and you and your FI never discussed your guest list?!?!?!

    <em>Guests</em> don't "decide how many are coming". <em>You and your FI</em> discuss how many guests you can <strong>afford</strong> to host and <strong>fit</strong> in your venue.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to FI Doesn't like this idea!! : I wish I had some Baileys for my coffee right now. *facepalm* Your wedding is in TWO FREAKING MONTHS and you and your FI never discussed your guest list?!?!?! Guests don't "decide how many are coming". You and your FI discuss how many guests you can afford to host and fit in your venue.
    Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. Every word, including the Baileys b/c this is 2 in a row that are making me stabby.  You can't just have any number of people who may or may not show up. What if you have enough money to pay for 100 people and 160 decide to come?  Or the venue holds 100 and 160 are coming? </div>
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  • We did not do STD. Our guest list is complete, just waiting on the invitations to be finished. I just don't understand why he want's to leave it up to them.
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    [QUOTE]We did not do STD. Our guest list is complete, just waiting on the invitations to be finished. I just don't understand why he want's to leave it up to them.
    Posted by emricmacy[/QUOTE]

    So you have had plans and budgeted for children on your guest list, or you don't. Did you and FI agree to include children when you created your budget and guest list?

    Answer that, and there's the answer to your question.

    Address the invitation to whom is invited.
  • edited February 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_fi-doesnt-like-this-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1ea54cea-47e3-46d0-b1ef-8cfaad9467aePost:f1ce4392-d83f-4f62-8573-049d4057adfa">Re: FI Doesn't like this idea!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to FI Doesn't like this idea!! : I wish I had some Baileys for my coffee right now. *facepalm* Your wedding is in TWO FREAKING MONTHS and you and your FI never discussed your guest list?!?!?! Guests don't "decide how many are coming". You and your FI discuss how many guests you can afford to host and fit in your venue.
    Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

    This.  but screw the Baileys.  I want liquor.  What is with these posts??
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  • Thanks ladies, love ya all but you sound like a broken record with the Bailey's, lol
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    edited February 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_fi-doesnt-like-this-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1ea54cea-47e3-46d0-b1ef-8cfaad9467aePost:d48bd736-3588-49bf-bcfb-f41fa61e76d6">FI Doesn't like this idea!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a nice lady desiging our invites, and we have worded on it We have reserved __ seats in your honor. He thinks we should just take that out, and let our guests decide how many are coming. He doesn't mind kids there, I just want close family friends. He said to do whatever I want, but don't want to make him upset. I don't think it's rude to put that, I tried explaining why I'd like to do this, but he doesn't get it.
    Posted by emricmacy[/QUOTE]

    This opens the door, wide, for them to include their uninvited children, plus ones, houseguests, friends, and you'll have to call them all to tell them that their uninvited guests were just that, uninvited.  Then you'll have a lot of back-and-forth with these people, who will be justifiably upset that you didn't make it clear to begin with who is and isn't invited.

    I think you'd better sit your FI down now and discuss the facts of invitation life with him.
  • I'm not trying to be snarky, but didn't you post last week that your fiance broke up with you because you tried to talk to him about some concerns you had about your relationship?
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_fi-doesnt-like-this-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:1ea54cea-47e3-46d0-b1ef-8cfaad9467aePost:4a0cf6b0-7b12-42a4-913a-ebcffaa50099">Re: FI Doesn't like this idea!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oooh! Good catch, renegade! Also, these emricmacy gems from about a month ago... <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_am-i-being-a-bridezilla-2">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_am-i-being-a-bridezilla-2</a> <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousinharassment-invite-or-not">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousinharassment-invite-or-not</a> <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fiances-parents-are-broke">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fiances-parents-are-broke</a> <strong>OP, I really hope you're making all of this crap up. Because if you're not, you and your FI have some serious issues.
    </strong>Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

    I think she is serious -_- 
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  • OP, I just read the links to your other posts, why would you leave it open for people to bring who they want if you feel bad that your parents are footing the bill completely and FI's family isn't contributing at all?   You also said that you were having a 75-80 person wedding...

    Invite who you can afford to pay for and leave it at that!  People will know who is invited based on who ou send the invitation to.  It's not that hard.  
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