Sending Out Invites

ZooKeeperA

Hi all!  I usually lurk, but could really use some input on this.

I am about 6.5 months out from wedding (October 4).  I have STD sent out, and have not even looked at invites yet.  I know that typically they do not get sent out to guests til 6-8 weeks before the wedding.  My fiance wants to send them out next month (not gonna happen), or May at the latest.  I personally don't want to, I think it is way too early; he thinks it will give people the chance to make all the necessary accomodations, which is kind of what the STD was for (in my opinion).  

What say you?  Is it possible to send them out too early? (I am going to start designing them next month).

vanityink

Definitely possible to send it out too early. If people need to travel, they'll book planes/hotels off the save the dates. Sending them out now you 1) risk looking like you're attempting to b-list people 2) probably going to catch people who have no dea what they're doing in 5 months to give you an RSVP, and will likely forge to RSVP later.

ZooKeeperA

Thanks jessicadall.  I was thinking along those lines, but just wasn't sure.

sarahroslansky

Seconded. My wedding is the day after yours (Oct 5th) and I'm planning to wait to send invites until late June/early July even though I've already bought them because I think people might lose track of them or something if I send them any sooner than that.

AddieCake

Don't send them out too early or people will forget about them. It seems weird b/c it seems like your fiance would be right, but the further out you send them, the more people go, Oh, I don't have to RSVP to that for a long time; I'll deal with that later... and toss it to the side. 

ZooKeeperA

I will be talking to my fiance about this again.  People tossing them to the side or just plain forgetting is high up my worry list.  Thanks all!  :-)

meghasaurus

My fiance has the exact same outlook (our wedding is September 20). He told me that we should sent out the invites "no later than June 1". I told him he is being ridiculous and we sent Save The Dates for this specific reason - to give people a head's up and time to plan. He's kind of a worrier though