how should I address the invitation?

B&K10+13+12

If I am inviting someone who is in a relationship, does both of their names have to be on the outer envelope?  Is it tacky if I put only one peron's name on the outer enevelope, and put both of their names on the inner card for the RSVP?

dmullican

Do they live together? We addressed the outer envelope to both of them if they did live together, like this:

Mr. John Doe
Miss Jane Smith
123 Street
Blah, ST 12589

If they don't live together, you can either send one to each of them or one to the one you are closest to. That's what we did for one of our guests, just addressed it to the lady and then inside put both names. Hope this helped!

HobokensFury

Both should be on the outer envelope.

hoffse

If they live together but aren't married you do separate lines.  Woman's name comes first.  If they live apart you address it to whoever you're closest to and their name goes on top, even if it's a man.  If they are married, their names go on the same line with "and" in between.  Do NOT put "and" unless they are married, because that's what it implies.

meganb1977

Ditto dmullican

hz80408

Agreed; however the woman should come first; and any woman over 18, I prefer to us "Ms" instead of Miss

coraleetbwed

I don't agree that the woman comes first.  Everything I've read says the person you know better comes first and then the person they're in a relationship with goes on the second line. 

If you were addressing an invitation to your brother and his girlfriend, would you put the girlfriend's name first?

B&K10+13+12

Thanks everyone!  The people that I have in mind to not live together as of right now. 

coraleetbwed

I just received my Crane's Wedding Blue Book today and they do say that the lady goes first when a couple is living together.  I stand corrected.

I have read where the person who's your friend, or closest to, should come first and then their significant other is on the next line.  I'm going with this one.