large families, small ceremony...HELP!

msstephaniejoy

FI and I are planning a small ceremony (~50 people) with our closest family and friends.  Since we both come from large families, how do we invite some family to the ceremony and leave everyone else for the reception?  Is is even polite to do that?

amymaysa

There is no way to do this b/c it is rude. The whole point is that people are coming to witness your marriage.

Invite the number you can afford for both locations

msstephaniejoy

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[QUOTE]There is no way to do this b/c it is rude. The whole point is that people are coming to witness your marriage. Invite the number you can afford for both locations
Posted by amymaysa[/QUOTE]

Thanks.  That's what I figured.  I don't want to be picky with our guests, especially since there going to be so many...it's more my FI who wants the "private" ceremony.

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]FI and I are planning a small ceremony (~50 people) with our closest family and friends.  Since we both come from large families, how do we invite some family to the ceremony and leave everyone else for the reception?  <strong>Is is even polite to do that?</strong>
Posted by msstephaniejoy[/QUOTE]

No it's not.  Either have a 50 person wedding (ceremony and reception) or invite everyone to the ceremony.  50 people is not a "private ceremony" so FI is wrong.

aragx6

You have two optioms: Invite everyone to everything or have a truly private ceremony with immediate family only.