How to invite plus one

ashleyvanderhoof

How do I invite a "plus one" if our invitations didn't come with an inner envelope? I've never been to a wedding as a single person, so I've never seen an example of this. Thanks for the help!

tenofcups4me

We put it on the outer:
Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

(Of course, we used actual names if the person was in a relationship.) The note thing is something I've only read about on the Knot -- I've never seen it in person and it seems like silly overkill to me.

HobokensFury

I just put and guest on the outer envelope if I didn't know the guests name.  I wrote the name if I did.

MyNameIsNot

Traditional etiquette says you would enclose a note letting them know they can bring along a date if they like.  However, I personally have never seen this done in real life.  We just put "& guest" for all of our single guests.  I might go that route if you are inviting your widowed formal great aunt, but if the singles are younger, more casual people, I'd just go with the & guest.

Of course, if the guest is a specific person, not just a potential random date, of course you should ge the person's actual name.  

tenofcups4me

MyNameIsNot, what makes you think that's traditional etiquette? I've never seen that advocated anywhere besides on the Knot. (which doesn't mean it doesn't exist! Just that I haven't read that anywhere, which is why I'm curious...)

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invite-plus-one-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:47a7b6cd-7fc6-40ab-89b1-4375757bbc53Post:01f0bb6a-5a50-4247-b93b-2029f958aa8e">Re: How to invite plus one</a>:
[QUOTE]MyNameIsNot, what makes you think that's traditional etiquette? I've never seen that advocated anywhere besides on the Knot. (which doesn't mean it doesn't exist! Just that I haven't read that anywhere, which is why I'm curious...)
Posted by tenofcups4me[/QUOTE]

<div>My debutant friend told me that was correct when I was doing my invitations.  She's generally knowledgeable about the old southern way of doing things, and is the only person I know under 50 that has ever owned calling cards, so it sounded right.</div><div>
</div><div>I fully admit I've never gone to a legit source, though, so it could be dead wrong.  She could be Kristin#s.</div>

tenofcups4me

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invite-plus-one-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:47a7b6cd-7fc6-40ab-89b1-4375757bbc53Post:5050bc1d-deab-4236-a9f3-aa4b7e863fa0">Re: How to invite plus one</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:.  She could be Kristin#s.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

LOL.

ashleyvanderhoof

should the note be hand written or typed like the invitations? Also, I was wondering if a seperate reply card would work with them checking "and guest"? I have no idea how all this works.